holdemdreamer 0 Posted March 8, 2007 Share Posted March 8, 2007 i have been playing poker seriously for about 2 years. started with friends and then went to online and occasionaly playing live in AC. I was doing very good on party poker until they closed down. I then went over to stars where i just cant get the same results. Most of my friends all went away to schol while i stay homed and am currently attending a community collegge. While everyone i know is out having a good time at school, i am stuck at homw with not much to do except poker. I have been becoming increasingly obsessed with poker and i dont seem to want to do anything but. Things that in the past that made me happy dont do the same anymore like they once did. While poker is filled with both ups and downs, on the down days i dont want to see or hear anybody and sometimes it can me crazy. I dont mean to be just ranting about personal problems but was curious... anyone experience this and/or have any advice? Link to post Share on other sites
HijackedAffairs 0 Posted March 8, 2007 Share Posted March 8, 2007 Thought about transferring to a regular university? It's easy to meet people at college and it's easier to balance your life than if you just sit at home playing poker. If you don't plan on transferring just balance your day with going outside to the park, or going out to eat or something. Staying inside and being obsessive is never good. I also find Full Tilt easier to beat then Pokerstars if you have the means to transfer some money onto it. Link to post Share on other sites
psujohn 0 Posted March 8, 2007 Share Posted March 8, 2007 http://www.ncpgambling.org/about_problem/a...roblem_test.asp Link to post Share on other sites
11 to 1 0 Posted March 8, 2007 Share Posted March 8, 2007 http://www.ncpgambling.org/about_problem/a...roblem_test.aspThis is a good suggestion. I also wonder what happened to the friends you started with? And, considering how much college students like to play cards, could you start a conversation about poker with some classmates and see if you can play live. I think poker, if you are winning, gives you immediate validation and instant community. But it's a false thing, really. Bet even at a community college they have some live counselors to chat with, you pay for it with your student fees. Take advantage - you already paid for it. Link to post Share on other sites
scoville 0 Posted March 8, 2007 Share Posted March 8, 2007 This is a good suggestion. I also wonder what happened to the friends you started with? And, considering how much college students like to play cards, could you start a conversation about poker with some classmates and see if you can play live. I think poker, if you are winning, gives you immediate validation and instant community. But it's a false thing, really. Bet even at a community college they have some live counselors to chat with, you pay for it with your student fees. Take advantage - you already paid for it.I believe the first thing is to think about why u want to have a change?what is the result of playing poker too much time? see if you can accept those results? if u can't, that's a good reason to have some changes. and try to image what will happen if u have those to time to do other things?Some psychologists think that one put too much time in something particularly, such as sleeping ,gaming .tv or online surfing. actually he is avoding something else that may cause more anxiety too him. so are u avoid something? failure in acadamy or? i don't know. Link to post Share on other sites
aedread 0 Posted March 8, 2007 Share Posted March 8, 2007 I Don't really like people in the first place, so I dont really relate, even though im almost in the same situation. It seems to me though that poker is kind of bringing you down, maybe take a break, look into transfering to a regular unversity like hijacked said. But at the end of the day it is all up to you what you want to do... just think on it for a while. Link to post Share on other sites
martinmc 0 Posted March 8, 2007 Share Posted March 8, 2007 One of the interesting things about poker and all forms of gambling from a mental health perspective is that when played with other people (live) it is a social activity and helps to develop social skills. But when played alone (online) it has an opposite effect. When you play live people are laughing, joking and there are immediate consequences for anti-social or inappropriate behaviour (ranging from being kicked out of the casino to getting beat up by another player). For proof of this just watch the main event coverage in 2003 then compare the way the players act socially to 2006. If you are going to continue to play I suggest find a live home game or playing in a casino. Link to post Share on other sites
psujohn 0 Posted March 8, 2007 Share Posted March 8, 2007 One of the interesting things about poker and all forms of gambling from a mental health perspective is that when played with other people (live) it is a social activity and helps to develop social skills.The funny thing is that a few women play in my regular home game and they invariably complain "you guys are so quiet", "you just sit here and play". I think it's actually a fairly chatty game - more so than most casino games - since it's mostly regulars that have been playing together for quite a while. Just funny how the women folk perceive it differently. Link to post Share on other sites
Mercury69 3 Posted March 8, 2007 Share Posted March 8, 2007 The funny thing is that a few women play in my regular home game and they invariably complain "you guys are so quiet", "you just sit here and play". I think it's actually a fairly chatty game - more so than most casino games - since it's mostly regulars that have been playing together for quite a while. Just funny how the women folk perceive it differently.You should know that women utter 3 times the amount of words, PER DAY, than a man does (7K for men, 21K per woman, average). Therefore, "quiet" is a relative perception.Anyway, having a social life is overrated. It's expensive and takes up too much time. Link to post Share on other sites
martinmc 0 Posted March 8, 2007 Share Posted March 8, 2007 You should know that women utter 3 times the amount of words, PER DAY, than a man does (7K for men, 21K per woman, average). Therefore, "quiet" is a relative perception.Anyway, having a social life is overrated. It's expensive and takes up too much time.Just keep telling yourself that and the lonley feeling will go away. Link to post Share on other sites
GABMAD 0 Posted March 8, 2007 Share Posted March 8, 2007 http://www.ncpgambling.org/about_problem/a...roblem_test.aspthis doesn't relate to poker. Link to post Share on other sites
rgold79 0 Posted March 8, 2007 Share Posted March 8, 2007 You should know that women utter 3 times the amount of words, PER DAY, than a man does (7K for men, 21K per woman, average). Therefore, "quiet" is a relative perception.On average, what, like, 200 of them are actually meaningful? Link to post Share on other sites
nutzbuster 7 Posted March 8, 2007 Share Posted March 8, 2007 this doesn't relate to poker.Gambling is only a problem if you're losing.start winning. Link to post Share on other sites
fatman 1 Posted March 8, 2007 Share Posted March 8, 2007 http://www.ncpgambling.org/about_problem/a...roblem_test.aspI only scored a 2 on the test....I'm a failure Link to post Share on other sites
GABMAD 0 Posted March 8, 2007 Share Posted March 8, 2007 Gambling is only a problem if you're losing.start winning.QFT. Although this could be controversial. Link to post Share on other sites
Dratj 0 Posted March 8, 2007 Share Posted March 8, 2007 Online, yes. live, no. Link to post Share on other sites
mtdesmoines 3 Posted March 8, 2007 Share Posted March 8, 2007 started with ...and then went I was doing very good ... until i just cant get the same results. Most of my friends all went away While everyone i know is out having a good time i am stuck at homw with not much to do except pokerI have been becoming increasingly obsessed i dont seem to want to do anything butThings that in the past that made me happy dont do the same anymore like they once didon the down days i dont want to see or hear anybody sometimes it can me crazyYeah, you got a problem.Play two hours a day and spend the rest doing something else. Ask the mousey chick in your class to study with you over coffee. Or maybe go to a play or something. Pick up basketball or racketball -- something physical. Take a neice, nephew or neighbor kid fishing. Do things. Life is cool, but it's up to you to decide to LIVE IT. Link to post Share on other sites
Steamed Rice 0 Posted March 8, 2007 Share Posted March 8, 2007 Anyway, having a social life is overrated. It's expensive and takes up too much time.the reason why a lot of people play poker is to fund the activities in their social life. well at least it is for me Link to post Share on other sites
ezelisk 0 Posted March 9, 2007 Share Posted March 9, 2007 the reason why a lot of people play poker is to fund the activities in their social life. well at least it is for meBut that means you have to be social... so what is your excuse again?I scored a 3 on the test. Blah. Link to post Share on other sites
seemorenuts 0 Posted March 9, 2007 Share Posted March 9, 2007 Barry Greenstein has good advice for his kids, do something with your life first, and you can always pick up poker after you've accomplished something.I'd quit for a few months if I were you.Alternatively, look for free poker leagues commonly held in bars/restaurants, or you could start your own.Best of luck, you deserve to be happy. Link to post Share on other sites
Pablov11 0 Posted March 9, 2007 Share Posted March 9, 2007 i have been playing poker seriously for about 2 years. started with friends and then went to online and occasionaly playing live in AC. I was doing very good on party poker until they closed down. I then went over to stars where i just cant get the same results. Most of my friends all went away to schol while i stay homed and am currently attending a community collegge. While everyone i know is out having a good time at school, i am stuck at homw with not much to do except poker. I have been becoming increasingly obsessed with poker and i dont seem to want to do anything but. Things that in the past that made me happy dont do the same anymore like they once did. While poker is filled with both ups and downs, on the down days i dont want to see or hear anybody and sometimes it can me crazy. I dont mean to be just ranting about personal problems but was curious... anyone experience this and/or have any advice?not really any advice man, i know exactly how you feel though, I'm going through the same thing now, my parents tell me I play too much, my friends tell me i play too much, but they just don't get it....... Link to post Share on other sites
holdemdreamer 0 Posted March 30, 2007 Author Share Posted March 30, 2007 thanks for the advice everyone Link to post Share on other sites
HermanKahn 0 Posted March 30, 2007 Share Posted March 30, 2007 Yeah, sorry you're down...it might be a good idea to try to get out and make yourself do something you're interested in with other people once a week. Could be anything: lectures, music concerts, a weightlifting class, foreign films, etc. Hell, even putting together a "poker strategy discussion meeting" would be better than nothing. Reserve a conference room in the student center, slap up some flyers, and I'm sure you'll have plenty of takers. Face-to-face interaction is very, very good for you, but don't try and force yourself into being an extrovert; that sh*t never works. Find people who have something in common with you and take it from there. I don't mean to be a a gigantic d*ck about this (can't help myself, heh) but I think the term you were looking for in your title is "avoidant" not "antisocial". See which fits:AVIODANT 1. Avoids occupational activities that involve significant interpersonal contact, because of fears of criticism, disapproval, or rejection 2. Is unwilling to get involved with people unless certain of being liked 3. Shows restraint within intimate relationships because of the fear of being shamed or ridiculed 4. Is preoccupied with being criticized or rejected in social situations 5. Is inhibited in new interpersonal situations because of feelings of inadequacy 6. Views self as socially inept, personally unappealing, or inferior to others 7. Is unusually reluctant to take personal risks or to engage in any new activities because they may prove embarrassingANTISOCIAL 1. failure to conform to social norms with respect to lawful behaviors as indicated by repeatedly performing acts that are grounds for arrest 2. deceitfulness, as indicated by repeated lying, use of aliases, or conning others for personal profit or pleasure 3. impulsivity or failure to plan ahead 4. irritability and aggressiveness, as indicated by repeated physical fights or assaults 5. reckless disregard for safety of self or others 6. consistent irresponsibility, as indicated by repeated failure to sustain steady work or honor financial obligations 7. lack of remorse, as indicated by being indifferent to or rationalizing having hurt, mistreated, or stolen from anotherGood luck! Link to post Share on other sites
Suited_Up 2 Posted March 30, 2007 Share Posted March 30, 2007 Want something more social.Try 2/4 live with lots of drinks involved.Or even 1/2NL if you're as frosty as I am. (Not sure what frosty means, but I heard it used and I like it.) But seriously... sounds like you're kinda on tilt. Take a week off or something. Also be aware of your mood when you play. If it goes south, just stop. I know it's hard, trust me I know, but you're better off that way. Then, go out with some people sometimes. Just do it. Link to post Share on other sites
Omaha Hi/Lo 0 Posted March 30, 2007 Share Posted March 30, 2007 just watch the main event coverage in 2003 then compare the way the players act socially to 2006.Amen... Link to post Share on other sites
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