I Called In Sick Today

[Ron_Mexico 4,219]

End with silence and one word answers.

 

Just keep saying "nah, it's all good, we're good." and be less responsive.

 

When push comes to shove and she calls you on it, just say you're working on focusing your energies on someone who will feel the same way back. No hard feelings.

[Ron_Mexico 4,219]

My advice might be petty and immature but its born out of self preservation and wanting resolution. You'll get it one way or another. She'll fade away or date you

 

 

Although, if your confrontational or a dick, it'll just make her happier about her stance and prove to herself that she was right. She didnt even date you and still had to deal with work drama

 

It's a no win sitch. In love, someone always winds up hurt. Might as well do it on your own terms.

[Tiltinagain 973]

what does that mean? your response should have been no response. cease all contact forever. it was the only option.

 

Just stop it.

 

I feel like Ron is purposefully giving bad advice. Pick a side already.

 

And if it wasn't on purpose, it was still god awful.

[SuitedAces21 2,722]

Just stop it.

 

I feel like Ron is purposefully giving bad advice. Pick a side already.

 

And if it wasn't on purpose, it was still god awful.

 

how was that bad advice? its over. this thing is over, never gonna happen. might as well sever ties for good now and not prolong the heartbreak.

[InternetExplorer 2,609]

I initially took his advice to mean continue on as normal. so I just let it go. she continued to explain why she dated him like I was seriously going to call her out about it.

 

no, seriously, I don't give a **** that it was him. I give a **** that you just blew a massive hole in your excuse for not dating me. but oh well.

[frautotenkinder 1,025]

what's the different between $5 mil and $10 mil. I mean, sure, some things, but either way, it's a good life. Any more than $10 mil, we start talking about a house on the beach, a boat, couple of cars, an apt somewhere cool.

 

I see ultra rich people and how they spend their money. $50K would change my life, but I daydream about having enough money where I could donate eight figures. I'll need closer to $50 million.

It might be that it was legit, once she had rebounded or whatever, she realized dating in the company was a terrible idea. okay, sure. but now I can't buy her excuse anymore without being a COMPLETE jackass. I'm just going to tell her this if she presses me.

 

If she presses you, she's a jerk. I think there are two prongs: the first is that she's good looking and awesome, and has had her share of fulfilling and not fulfilling relationships. The second is she does not want to date a co-worker. You've told her you want more, she's ixnayed, and then for whatever reason, has continued an intimate, friendly tone with you.

 

If you changing your job changes things for her, she should lady-balls up and ask you out. However things proceed, I don't think you need to articulate things further.

You CAN'T make an issue of it and discuss it like you've done at every other turn. You gotta leave this one be gotta play this one cool and let it roll off. Just my .02.

 

Ron Mexico, are you and I Turk and JD?

Was emailing with BC today and she said that her boss is making her go to a "women as leaders" conference tomorrow and I told her id trade places with her and her response was "you only want to go because it'll be full of women". I figured I had three responses

 

1) make a joke about how she won't date me but one of them might

2) no it's just that this place is that bad

 

Or

 

what I did which was "no, this place is that bad. Besides, I got my eyes on you you're everything that I see" as sort of a joking but serious response

 

Which, for those unfamiliar is a song by Drake that she (well, both of us) really like and the next line is "I want your hot love and emotion, endlessly"

 

Her response was "you want my hot love? " "AND emotion. Endlessly" "well, you can't have both " "that's what you think"

 

And then we switched gears to her emailing me the week 1 results of her departments weight loss challenge where she's currently in last place. My response was "well, yeah, you have a max of 4 pounds to lose. Of course you're going to lose. So you can do side bends and sit-ups, but please don't lose that butt" which got a " " response.

 

And that was my day.

 

I think there was a fourth option: I want to go to a women's conference because it's full of women. And there won't be a line at the bathroom.

[frautotenkinder 1,025]

Does anyone have a rec for hard cider? I live near Albertsons/Ralphs/Vons, and Cost Plus, Whole Foods, Trader Joes, Bev Mo.

 

I don't drink much, so I don't need anything high alcohol, or large bottle. (I really liked the Adria Ferran beer, but the bottle is too big.)

[Ron_Mexico 4,219]

What did I say? I said leave it alone and moreover, back off the constant talking everything out and being there for 4 hours on a Friday. Screw all that.

 

 

If that's bad advice, so be it.

[iTommyGavin81 288]

I liked napas stuff especially the seamless transition to sir mix a lot. I think she's gonna touch your penis soon enough. Have no idea on gods green earth what's taking her so long.

 

And strat, I'm somewhat on Mexi-melts side on yours. It was a year ago. It's perfectly ok with that being part of her reasoning for not dating co workers. Nothing to make a deal out of, I'm guessing it's jealousy that is spiking your blood pressure on this but the fact is she's talking to you now not him. You've come this far you might as well play it cool and see what happens when you're not working at the same company as her.

[Tiltinagain 973]

What did I say? I said leave it alone and moreover, back off the constant talking everything out and being there for 4 hours on a Friday. Screw all that.

 

 

If that's bad advice, so be it.

 

It just gets hard to tell when you're giving advice that you believe and when you're playing devils advocate.

[hank213 1,823]

Hey hank I'm in West Point if you feel like driving 3 hours round trip for some beers tomorrow.

 

that's such a tempting offer how could I possibly say no?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

like this: no.

 

Yet another way I'm more awesome than a young woman. definitive answers to relationship requests.

[brvheart 1,752]

Strat, I've never heard Serge's stuff. I youtubed a little, but didn't run across anything that stuck out.

[brvheart 1,752]

definitive answers to relationship requests.

 

haha

 

Hank just called you a homo, Napa.

[hank213 1,823]

so had the convo with my direct about the promotion and was less than reassured. the feeling they're using me to get past a rough patch and then once the pressure lets up they're going to give me a pat on the head and leave me where I'm at is growing. but he asked for the week to see if he can get a definitive answer from the CIO so I'll give them that long before I start telling eveyone to get help somewhere else.

[brvheart 1,752]

I was in the faculty locker room at the rec center and witnessed something horrifying today. A dude was getting ready to shower and laid his clothes that he was going to wear on a toilet. Like that's where he stored them until he was done. I couldn't believe it and almost threw up. I wouldn't do that at home. Throughout the day when I would see him I would just stare down his clothes and make sure I didn't come in contact with anything he was brushing against. So gross.

[Ron_Mexico 4,219]

While I don't condone his actions, you're weird. You should really see a professional about your issues.

 

jesus pooped in a hole

[iClint 61]

I think the client we're auditing this week was sold to a competitor last night and so it doesn't really matter how good of a job we do since they won't exist in a few months. The partner got an email and forwarded it to the manager and while they didn't outright say the above, that's what I gathered from eavesdropping. I didn't ask any questions because I figured if they thought I needed to know they would have told me.

[InternetExplorer 2,609]

I thought brv was leading us into a Sandusky story

[Essay21 2,385]

Brvy is correct, that guy needs to be shunned from polite society forever.

 

At work for another pointless day!

[Tiltinagain 973]

I thought brv was leading us into a Sandusky story

 

I did too. Almost quit reading after the faculty locker room comment.

 

My shower is right next to the toilet. I almost always put my towel on top of the toilet for easy acess after getting out of the shower. There is a towel hook but it would require getting out of the shower to reach it if I hung the towel there. Convenience is important. So is cleaning the bathroom regularly.

 

Want a hug Brvy?

[iZuma 764]

I always take a shit on my bath towel

[vbnautilus 48]

brvy, your condition is totally curable.

[Cha! Cha! 628]

I agree with Ron and Frau and Tommy.

 

I take the flip every time and sell action in it and guarantee myself more than the $500K.

 

Goddamn loopholes.

 

 

what I did which was "no, this place is that bad. Besides, I got my eyes on you you're everything that I see" as sort of a joking but serious response

 

Which, for those unfamiliar is a song by Drake that she (well, both of us) really like and the next line is "I want your hot love and emotion, endlessly"

 

Her response was "you want my hot love? " "AND emotion. Endlessly" "well, you can't have both " "that's what you think"

 

I don't mind your line here if you're sure she knows the song (which you were). However, after she hits you with a "you want my hot love?" I think you should've continued down that path instead of hitting her with the emotion stuff.

 

 

we are all so ****ed. holy god. how are these SECOND ROUND contestants.

 

Maybe it's just easier to share the dilemmas and bad times because you're looking for advice and consoling. Nobody wants to be the guy that is constantly talking about how great things are going. Except Tilt. That guy won't shut about it, right?

 

That reminds me...it concerns me how many times during catch-up that I go to like a post and I see Tilt is the only other one who liked it. I think it's time I start asking some hard questions about myself.

[Essay21 2,385]

Yeah, you do. Cause tilty sucks, he doesn't even vote for his best friend in a voting contest. Guy has no heart. Same with napa. Hope BC keeps stringing you along, blue balled and crying, forever.

[Cha! Cha! 628]

Regarding the IE revelation...didn't we already know she had dated a coworker before? Isn't the only new news here that it was this specific guy?