girlfriend and poker

[kevin562 0]

I was just reading Daniel's Journal about his recent breakup with his gF Lori and something similar happen at a home game I went to last Saturday. I was at a friend's house for a tournament style game he was hosting and everything was going pretty good. I was playing some pretty goood poker and made a bunch of good reads on my opponents. The guy that was mainly on my crosshair was the host. Everytime he would raise, I would re-raise, knowing that he was weak and everytime I did, I was correct. I did notice that he was constantly looking at his cell phone as if he was waiting for a important phone call, so maybe he wasn't totally there at the table if you know what I mean. Anyways, half way through our game, his girlfriend stroms in and rips her necklace which appeared to have a promise ring on it and throw it on the poker table. Then she leaves crying all the way to the door. The guy tells us to muck his cards and left after her. Mind you we didn't know what was exactly going on and was kind of in shock. My buddy made a comment, "Girlfriend and poker do not mix!" We all started laughing and then we kind of stop knowing it was kind of wrong to joke like that while someone relationship was crashing down. He came back to the room shortly after and we kind of knew what had happen. We played one last game and left because it fealt a little wierd. I don't know about you guys but my girlfriend is cool with me and poker. Some of the guys at the table made references to poker and how it will affect your relationship. If your girlfriend doesn't understand the love you have for the game, then it tends to lead to breakups about the quality of time you spend with them and the quality of time you spend with you buddies playing poker. Mind you, I don't know what lead up to her stroming into our game and did what she did. But what's your take on it? Do you guys ever notice at your local card room, guys who bring there girlfriend to watch them play. They always sit behind their man looking real bore. I get a kick watching them because I don't understand the purpose of doing that. Is that the quality time he thinks she needs?

[Backler 0]

My wife doesn't mind me playing, but it's important too balance time for both. Take it from me, women hate being neglected I'm not allowed to play online for real money from our bank account because i lost $200 one night playing completely drunk. It was bad, I looked at the hand history and i was capping bets preflop with like 7 3 os. Anyway, I sneak money in here and there and play very small limits, but I have had good success playing live. I'm pretty sure as long as I keep winning, she won't mind me playing at all.Also, it works out great. She doesn't want to come watch me play because it's boring, and i don't want her to watch me play because i know she won't be having a good time. I'm one of those guys that actually cares about that stuff :)We cool like that yo.

[MrEye 0]

My wife plays and is pretty pissed that she hasn't been able to play lately (We have a 6 week old). We did get to play a small tourney Sunday night with another couple. My wife ended up winning. Anyway, she loves to play and doesn't mind me playing at all.

[kevin562 0]

That's good to hear. We have enough drama playing poker, we don't need any from our girlfriend right guys?

[bettor 0]

My gf doesn't see the positive benefits of a successful poker life because she can't look past the all-too-common "lost everything" stories. but she knows i enjoy it, so she doesn't grumble too much. i think it's because i'm honest with her about it(how much time i spend playing) plus i don't blow her off to play poker, i always talk to her about it first. i guess there are two criteria that need to be met during a relationship1. naturally, you have to be good for eachother ANYWAY2.poker needs to be a connecting force, not a point of contention

[AceyDeucy 0]

That keeps it pretty simple. It's also helpful to have that other iron in the fire to help cover your losses on occasion (such occaisions have been far too frequent of late.) It's also just really cool to have someone you sleep next to (and/or with) that you can talk card strategy with, and is happy to do so. It's amazing how fast that can develop your game.

[kevin562 0]

woot woot my girlfriend lets me talk to her about poker and she doesn't even care for the game. I guess she just listen because I so passionate about it right now.

[CrAcKeDaCeS 0]

I have a couple of things to add to this...1) My g/f is pretty cool with my poker habit...she knows I hold a weekly home game on Wednesday's, and doesn't try to get in the way of it...and she doesn't lecture me too much about online playing (which I've been cutting down on lately, mainly because I enjoy live play about 100 times more). She's been bugging me to play in my home game, but I tell her that it's strictly "guys only."2) My friends and I were playing at TGI Fridays one time (don't ask...the bartender liked us, and we told him we weren't playing for real)...and this guy's girlfriend walked in....they weren't in a fight or anything, but she was just "ready to leave." Not only was I getting a read on this guy from my 2 hours of playing with him, but I was reading her body language too. I had him busted out in the next 3 hands, when he went all-in with J 8o.

[Guest]

my girlfriend loves me playing poker cuz she makes me spend the money i win on her haha. she thinks im the best player in the world or something and if i get like 2nd in a big mtt she'll say *why didnt you get 1st.* haha i love her and how she supports me =). she definitely encourages me to always play my best :wink:

[sportsfntc 0]

Hey all...I must be blessed...I have a terrific wife who could care less how much I play poker, whether it be online or live. Of course, she also knows I'm really good at $$ managment and won't do anything stupid. Plus I'm completely honest with her when it comes to wins and losses, and she doesn't handle the finances in our home so she really trusts me. Yes, it also helps that I'm up a decent amount, but still, I couldn't play if I didn't have that kind of support.Cheers

[iveyfan30 0]

i am lucky as well,,my wife loves poker and plays alot online ...we always watch the tourneys on tv as well..she lets me manage my poker money my way and never nags about time spent at the table or online...hell,even for valentines day she picked a restaurant that had a poker night...only downside is jsh arieh is her fav player...she digs him.....thats ok i get to watch evelyn ng on the battle of the sexes lol..

[Petoria 0]

I have soooooo many funny stories about stuff like this, but there just isn't time to tell them all. Most of the stories are like, "My GF doesn't like me playing poker, but I do what I want." or "My family doesn't like me playing poker, but I do what I want."In general, women seem to get in the way of the game.

[Nikki_N 17]

I have a couple of things to add to this... She's been bugging me to play in my home game, but I tell her that it's strictly "guys only."

If she is interested in poker, why not let her play? Couples need things to do together, and as time passes, you'll find that those things get harder to come by. Let her in now, while you're still dating. Don't wait until you have a family (if that's where this is going) when it's too hard to find time, sitters, etc... My husband started playing, and then I. His poker buddies invite me to their home games now. And when we're fortunate enough to get a sitter, I go to these games or we go to the casino together. We discovered something else we have in common, and that is like a goldmine to a long standing relationship. Give your girlfriend a little credit. She may be cooler than you realize. Many girls enjoy getting to be "one of the guys" every now and then. Besides, don't you want your buddies to be jealous of your hot girlfriend? Nikki

[Nikki_N 17]

I have soooooo many funny stories about stuff like this, but there just isn't time to tell them all.  Most of the stories are like, "My GF doesn't like me playing poker, but I do what I want."  or "My family doesn't like me playing poker, but I do what I want."In general, women seem to get in the way of the game.

Where do you play in T.H.?Nikki

[reidyvegas 0]

haha thats funny how u said u get a kick out of watching those mopes bring there G/F to the cardroom and make them sit there for hours cuz i get a kick out of it also, mind u some of them that bring there girlfreinds have HOT ones lol, it doesnt distract me but make me play even better knowing im taking her boyfreinds money..lmao great topic.payce

[Petoria 0]

Why to not bring your GF to play poker with you:1) She might actually beat you and wouldn't that give your friends some ammo.2) Can't guys have some time where they can talk to each other without worrying if what they say will upset their wives/GF's.3) If you bust her out early, whose pocket does the rebuy come from.I'm sure there are some good reasons to bring your GF to a poker game, but can't a guy just get away for a while, away from everything except the game and his friends.

[daddypoker23 0]

i had a g/f who tryed to get involed with me playing poker but she did not understand it.. for example when i was playing and i won 130 bucks on a good nite she would act like i was making that kind of money all the time but i tryed to tell her that in the long run im only going to be making around 12 bucks a hr. and there are days were i also lose its just part of the game.. she tryed to get involed but she couldn't understand maybe one day ill find that poker girl who loves poker as much as i do.. peace out joel

[The Ace of Jades 0]

You know what they say: "Sex is good, but poker lasts longer."and"In the poker game of life, women are the rake."They can be pretty smart some times, the can also be complete idiots too.

[AceOfSpaiDs 0]

my girlfriend is cool with poker....she's a little concerned of me going to casinos and playing (I turn 21 in 1.5 weeks), and isn't a big fan of me playing real money online (because $50 minium deposits and money is kinda tight right now, bills) but as we speak im playing $1/$2 at Party. I'm up 31 bucks, but its all good, she's sound asleep behind me on the bed, she's got class in the morning. but live home games she's fine with, and I play quite a bit (2-3 times a week). I'm pretty consistent so poker has been like a little extra cash in my pocket. anyways, me and my girl dont fight too much about poker, she plays for play chips on pstars every now & then, and she's even sat down at the table with us a few times

[FrankB 0]

My girlfriend couldn't understand at first what my facination with poker was all about, but being as great as she is, she allowed me to teach her to play. Now she understands. My girlfriend comes to the casino with me, but she is never sitting behind me bored. She's sitting in on the action. I consider myself pretty a pretty lucky guy. I guess all people are different. It does take a special someone to understand you. You just have to find the right one. :wink:

[kevin562 0]

"I got 99 problems but a biatch ain't one" Jay-Z

[ahalvara 0]

i am lucky as well,,my wife loves poker and plays alot online ...we always watch the tourneys on tv as well..she lets me manage my poker money my way and never nags about time spent at the table or online...hell,even for valentines day she picked a restaurant that had a poker night...only downside is jsh arieh is her fav player...she digs him.....thats ok i get to watch evelyn ng on the battle of the sexes lol..

I have to agree with this guy. I think I am a very lucky guy for my wife to be putting up with me thus far. She loves the game of poker, she loves to play. However, I am restricted from playing poker online because of past incidents. Anyway, that's beside the point. My wife is the perfect balance between me and poker. She loves to discuss strategy with me and she loves watching poker on TV. She does get upset when poker gets out of hand, but I think that is the what the perfect balance is with her. She'll let me know when i've been playign a little too much and its time to spend some time. If you guys are having trouble with your ladies and money in the accounts you have, just agree on an initial amount of money to be your "bankroll" starter. Then just do what I did, play and win your way up to high limits. I started out with 200 and played low limit games until I was at 2000. Now I am playing 300 Buy in NO Limit and doing quite well. As for my wife's favorite poker player, she loves to watch our very own Daniel Negreanu, always mentioning to others that he looks like "Worm" from rounders. AS for my favorite, I would have to say that I enjoy wednesday nights with Shana Hiatt :wink:

[StonedViper 0]

I don't think the big problem women have with poker players (especially pros) is that they gamble for a living. I'm not a pro poker player but i kind of live in the same timeframe. Most of the people i work with are either devorced or single, why? Because we work nights, just like poker players.You leave the house at 8pm to go to your job, (be it mine or a pro poker players), your girlfriend or wife has to go to bed alone most nights and there is not much that women like less then sleeping alone (unless of course they hate the guy...lol) You get home at 8-9am the next morning and what do you want to do? take a shower and sleep, that doesn't help the relationship much either. Then you do it all over again the next night because thats what you gotta do to pay the bills.I just wish i was a money making pro poker player instead of the 55k a year job i have...lol

[CrAcKeDaCeS 0]

I have a couple of things to add to this... She's been bugging me to play in my home game, but I tell her that it's strictly "guys only."

If she is interested in poker, why not let her play? Couples need things to do together, and as time passes, you'll find that those things get harder to come by. Let her in now, while you're still dating. Don't wait until you have a family (if that's where this is going) when it's too hard to find time, sitters, etc... My husband started playing, and then I. His poker buddies invite me to their home games now. And when we're fortunate enough to get a sitter, I go to these games or we go to the casino together. We discovered something else we have in common, and that is like a goldmine to a long standing relationship. Give your girlfriend a little credit. She may be cooler than you realize. Many girls enjoy getting to be "one of the guys" every now and then. Besides, don't you want your buddies to be jealous of your hot girlfriend? Nikki

All valid points, yes, but sometimes it just ain't that easy. Plus I've tried teaching her the game and she gets "bored." I think that if I actually invited her to come along, she'd probably decline. Plus, I see her enough, I should be allowed one guys night out.

[pokerspice 0]

My boyfriend was the one who got me interested in poker. Before I met him I had no idea that there was a game called Texam Hold'em. The first weekend in my new place I met him and his roommate, and they were convinced that they were going to teach me to play. The first thing I learned (I'm ashamed to admit), was from Poker for Dummies with Chris Moneymaker. This got me hooked, soon I had an online account, and was dealing in my boyfriends tournament. Poker has brought us closer together I think, it's something that we can always talk about. He plays alot more than I do, but I'm always there at his side when he's playing MTTs, b/c all our friends are there too. For example, he was playing in a tournament last Sunday, and when he made the final table I was more nervous than he was. He ended up winning the tourney, and we've been disecting his hands since. I love that he can talk about it with me. Maybe we're just lucky b/c we have a common intrest.