How are you confused at all? Like you said, you're getting all the right signals.She's given you all sorts of indicators of interest (inviting you to hang out with her and her friends, kissing you on the cheek just bc you're leaving the bar, the list goes on and on), and your friends are saying she's just being nice!!??? I'm sure there are a lot of nice waitresses and bartenders and cashiers and receptionists where you live, and I'm willing to bet none of them kiss you on the cheek whenever you leave their place of work. She's not just being nice, and your friends are probably not getting laid very much.Amazingly, she has done this for 8 months and apparently you haven't done anything about it, yet she continues. Normally this would 100% be a friend-zone situation, but since it seems the physical familiarity has escalated in recent weeks (w/ the kiss landing more near to the mouth, and the sidling next to you), I'd say you still have an excellent shot at escalating this relationship, if that is what you would like to do.She's obviously attracted to you. When a girl is attracted to a guy, that guy is generally in complete control of the situation. The woman will continually give the man every chance to take advantage of her attraction and do something to get next to her. If the man continually fails to do this she will lose the attraction that has built up and the man will no longer have any chance at getting anywhere with the woman. For some reason, she has given you 8 months to make a move (generally she'd give you maybe a couple weeks in this situation), and you haven't lost her yet.If indeed your intentions are to escalate this relationship, the sooner the better. You must get out there and give it a shot. If the reason you're confused is because you are uncomfortable w/ the situation bc you aren't attracted to her or something, then my advice wouldn't really be necessary.If you want to get with her, then do something about it. Turn up the flirting/sexual tension.Specific directions on what to do are difficult to give, since I have absolutely no info on the girl or the bar or the specific time you guys have spent together, but the above is still definitely applicable.And don't even worry about the "semi-ex-bf", he's a non issue. When she's attracted to someone (you), it doesn't matter who else is around. She'd rather be with you.Because you're chrozzo.Keep us informed, I'm looking forward to every hot detail.