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Is it because of your avatar? :club:
lol she hasn't seen itIf she even knew I were posting on this site anymore, or still playing poker, I'd be in a lot of trouble with her. I still play every day while she's at work. I'm not a losing player...I'm not making a lot of money, but poker is not a liability. She still doesn't want me to play...she thinks I should be doing something more productive with my time. It's like I'm not allowed to have any down time or time to myself. She's right to an extent I guess...I have put some things off because of poker before..but for her to tell me not to play I think is unreasonable. Of course she is more important to me than poker. What I really should do is quit poker and focus on making my company the best it can be. Then after a few years when said successfull company has made us financially comfortable go back to poker and play all I want. The thing is I love poker, and its really hard to quit. And I'm afraid if I take a few years off I'll fall behind...poker will change...and maybe I'll just be to old to catch up and I'll never reach the level I want to reach. I dont have visions of TP/MM of course... but I think I can come a good player in time. I'm pretty new to the game and I've already had more than my share of MTT success for somebody who has been playing for such a short time.About a month ago on this board even said that I was quitting poker...but I'm still here. ah...phuckit...Im screwed either way.
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Is it because of your avatar? :club:
Hmmm if I have 7 shots of my avatars kissing, in sequence, can somebody animate that? This could bring my avy to a whole new level.
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FLush.. what porn is that from.. I think I need to download that?.. thats jenna Jameson and whose the other?.. damn homie!
Looks like Brianna Banks, I mean, dunno mate...
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Dmp her anyway. Girlfriend's are a pain in the ***.
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Right now my marriage is on the turn...and I'm bluffing at the pot.
The BJ session really had an impact on things eh ? :club:
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Your not even married, and starting bad habits. You must assert yourself and demand your right to play cards. If you don't do it now, you are done; you will set a pattern of behavior that she will come to expect (much like bringing a girl flowers on a first date is such a mistake).Play every day, all day; then when you actually give her some time, she will appreciate it more.Thoughts from a happily divorced dude.
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lol she hasn't seen itIf she even knew I were posting on this site anymore, or still playing poker, I'd be in a lot of trouble with her. I still play every day while she's at work. I'm not a losing player...I'm not making a lot of money, but poker is not a liability. She still doesn't want me to play...she thinks I should be doing something more productive with my time. It's like I'm not allowed to have any down time or time to myself. She's right to an extent I guess...I have put some things off because of poker before..but for her to tell me not to play I think is unreasonable. Of course she is more important to me than poker. What I really should do is quit poker and focus on making my company the best it can be. Then after a few years when said successfull company has made us financially comfortable go back to poker and play all I want. The thing is I love poker, and its really hard to quit. And I'm afraid if I take a few years off I'll fall behind...poker will change...and maybe I'll just be to old to catch up and I'll never reach the level I want to reach. I dont have visions of TP/MM of course... but I think I can come a good player in time. I'm pretty new to the game and I've already had more than my share of MTT success for somebody who has been playing for such a short time.About a month ago on this board even said that I was quitting poker...but I'm still here. ah...phuckit...Im screwed either way.
Thats me now. Trust me, being financially secure is WAYWAYWAYWAY better then playing poker. Poker is a hobby like golf. I love it, but I love walking into any store any time and knowing I can have anything I want.And my wife still nags me about how much time I play poker.I have a weekly live game that starts at 5:30 and ends at 12:00 every Wed. That is my for sure time to play. Any other time is gravy. Marriage is work, and if you place anything over your marriage, you are not going to be happy for long. A man needs a house that he can rest at. If you are fighting with your wife, you have no rest. On the other hand if you make efforts to make your wife happy, she will do the same thing. So be the first one to please, and watch how much comes back.Everyone who bragged about telling their wife how it is, sleeps alone or soon will.
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Before she moved in, how the hell did you manage to fit in 30 - 40 hours per week of poker and still manage to maintain a relationship with this chick? did you guys see each other like once a week?All I can say is that you need to put in some hours as you want to, and if she can't deal with it then you'll have to decide which is more important.I was unlucky, as I didn't get heavily into poker until after I was already married. It was the first real hobby I developed that got me away from her and out of the house. And it wasn't even like I was spending more than a couple of hours a week watching the WPT or playing. Needless to say she immediately hated it and things went downhill from there. I'm happily divorced now and we get along great. Sick, isn't it? Now when I win money she's all like "Wow, that's great!". She even wishes me good luck when I tell her I'm going to play.Women. I don't know what the hell is going on with them.

Everyone who bragged about telling their wife how it is, sleeps alone or soon will.
There's nothing wrong with sleeping alone. I do now and I'm loving it. It's the time we spent in bed without sleeping that I miss, but even that I don't miss all that much.
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People are more important than poker. At least someone as important as a wife or fiance should be. Anyone who is really weighing the pros and cons of a significant other versus a card game has some serious priority issues. If you can't clearly choose your S.O. over poker, you need to either 1) grow up or 2) find someone that makes the math clearer. Generally, I would vote A.I find some of the replies on this thread really, really sad. Many, many people apparently really suck at life.

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People are more important than poker. At least someone as important as a wife or fiance should be. Anyone who is really weighing the pros and cons of a significant other versus a card game has some serious priority issues. If you can't clearly choose your S.O. over poker, you need to either 1) grow up or 2) find someone that makes the math clearer. Generally, I would vote A.I find some of the replies on this thread really, really sad. Many, many people apparently really suck at life.
Completely ridiculous! There is such a thing as balance in a relationship. What we're talking about here is someone who really enjoys something (playing poker) and their S.O. coming into the picture and demanding that they give it up. If there is some legitimate reason for them to ask the other to give it up, that's one thing. But to simply state that because they don't like it that the other person should stop is ABSOLUTELY a reason to question a relationship. We're not suggesting getting married and then spending all but 2 hours a week sitting in a basement on the computer playing poker. If you balance things there is no reason why anynoe should have to give up something they love for someone else. That's a recipe for resentment, which is the death of any relationship.When you've had to deal with a woman who gives you unreasonable ultimatums, then come back and see how your opinion has changed. In the meantime, I don't need your sympathy and certainly don't need your compeltely ignorant assessment of how I (and others here) "suck at life".
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People are more important than poker. At least someone as important as a wife or fiance should be. Anyone who is really weighing the pros and cons of a significant other versus a card game has some serious priority issues. If you can't clearly choose your S.O. over poker, you need to either 1) grow up or 2) find someone that makes the math clearer. Generally, I would vote A.I find some of the replies on this thread really, really sad. Many, many people apparently really suck at life.
Ah, Judgement Day. Thanks, Moron...I mean, Mormon.
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People are more important than poker. At least someone as important as a wife or fiance should be. Anyone who is really weighing the pros and cons of a significant other versus a card game has some serious priority issues. If you can't clearly choose your S.O. over poker, you need to either 1) grow up or 2) find someone that makes the math clearer. Generally, I would vote A.I find some of the replies on this thread really, really sad. Many, many people apparently really suck at life.
What if...........You had been playing baseball your entire life and were selected by *inset favorite team here* to be a starter with a smallish salary and the opportunity to advance to a 7 figure salary, the fiance says, "I know this is your passion and you have done this your whole life and dreamt about it day and night, but I can't handle you on the road that much....it's me or your career"What do you do ?After all, its just a ball game.....right ?
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Ah, Judgement Day. Thanks, Moron...I mean, Mormon.
Your ignorant assumptions about other people's religion are just a delight.My remarks weren't directed toward people who advocated a balance, but rather those who advocated throwing someone overboard if they didn't get to do whatever they wanted to. "She doesn't like you playing poker all the time? Screw her!"I should have really thought twice about posting this on a forum that seems primarily populated by semi-adolescent guys or those who assert that any decision related to a member of the opposite sex should be strongly related to how much trim you get or how hot she looks. People who say things like this suck at life. Period.I'll console myself with my 16 happy years of marriage and leave those of you with these feelings to your uninformed 20-something know-nothing status. And as that Mormon kid on South Park said: "Suck my balls."
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Your ignorant assumptions about other people's religion are just a delight.My remarks weren't directed toward people who advocated a balance, but rather those who advocated throwing someone overboard if they didn't get to do whatever they wanted to. "She doesn't like you playing poker all the time? Screw her!"I should have really thought twice about posting this on a forum that seems primarily populated by semi-adolescent guys or those who assert that any decision related to a member of the opposite sex should be strongly related to how much trim you get or how hot she looks. People who say things like this suck at life. Period.I'll console myself with my 16 happy years of marriage and leave those of you with these feelings to your uninformed 20-something know-nothing status. And as that Mormon kid on South Park said: "Suck my balls."
How many times has your happily married wife lied to you? Cheated on you? Did something you wouldn't approve of ? Left you in the dark ? You sure about that ?
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What if...........You had been playing baseball your entire life and were selected by *inset favorite team here* to be a starter with a smallish salary and the opportunity to advance to a 7 figure salary, the fiance says, "I know this is your passion and you have done this your whole life and dreamt about it day and night, but I can't handle you on the road that much....it's me or your career"What do you do ?After all, its just a ball game.....right ?
This is a decent comparison. But we're probably not talking about someone who is on an actual career path, but rather someone who might be spending lots of time playing low-limit online poker. If the guy is playing for significant money, then this is his job and it's a fairer comparison. But I very, very, very much doubt that comparing the possible upside of a pro baseball player (even one at minimum salary) is a reasonable comparison to someone who has a total bankroll of maybe a few thousand bucks.And, to use your analogy, if I had been toiling in the minor leagues for 5-7 years and wasn't on the fast track to the bigs, I wouldn't think it was unreasonable for my S.O. to start a reasoned dialogue about how long I expected her to be involved in my quixotic quest (which might make me happy, but is relegating her to a life of rarely seeing me and being very poor to boot). But maybe I'm just less of an me-first idealist than some folks here.Good post. But, for me at least, I just don't think your comparison is that apt.
How many times has your happily married wife lied to you? Cheated on you? Did something you wouldn't approve of ? Left you in the dark ? You sure about that ?
I'm as sure as anyone can ever be about what other humans do. I'll say this -- she's never given me a reason in 16+ years to ever doubt her. Clearly you haven't had the same luck with people you've chosen to be with. Sorry about that.
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I'm as sure as anyone can ever be about what other humans do. I'll say this -- she's never given me a reason in 16+ years to ever doubt her. Clearly you haven't had the same luck with people you've chosen to be with. Sorry about that.
You can "clearly" assume whatever you want. I would have to clearly assume you're ignorant for assuming this, and that everyone but yourself is uninformed, but the reality is a +%50 divorce rate and "Desperate Housewives" as a #1 watched show. "Most"......"Most" women are not as devoted as they lead, and the same is true for men.
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You can "clearly" assume whatever you want. I would have to clearly assume you're ignorant for assuming this, and that everyone but yourself is uninformed, but the reality is a +%50 divorce rate and "Desperate Housewives" as a #1 watched show. "Most"......"Most" women are not as devoted as they lead, and the same is true for men.
I can't speak for "most" marriages. I can speak for mine. That's good enough for me.
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This is a decent comparison. But we're probably not talking about someone who is on an actual career path, but rather someone who might be spending lots of time playing low-limit online poker. If the guy is playing for significant money, then this is his job and it's a fairer comparison. But I very, very, very much doubt that comparing the possible upside of a pro baseball player (even one at minimum salary) is a reasonable comparison to someone who has a total bankroll of maybe a few thousand bucks.
I guess I agree with you to some point and not at others. I mean if you enjoy a hobby you should be able to do it without getting an ultimatum as long as it doesn't ruin the marriage financially, doesn't result in death, and doesn't involve hookers. :)I have the hobby of playing poker. And if you read my first post you would clearly see that my wife fully supports it. But I play low limits right now. So if I am not doing any of the 3 things I listed above, I should have the ability to continue my hobby regardless of the actual stake. My wife has hobbies. She is a writer, I will go weeks without seeing her except at dinner and in the morning. That is her hobby, and like mine, she hopes to eventally make money (well, she already does actually so she beat me there!). I know she likes it and I know it is her life long passion to be a novelist/screenwriter and I deal. Just like she knows my passion for poker and her crazy belief that I can be successful at it given the time. And she is more than happy to give me that time. I guess we are both mature enough to know when it goes to far and not let it create tension. Maybe I am on the same page with you. Damn! :club:
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I guess I agree with you to some point and not at others. I mean if you enjoy a hobby you should be able to do it without getting an ultimatum as long as it doesn't ruin the marriage financially, doesn't result in death, and doesn't involve hookers. :)I have the hobby of playing poker. And if you read my first post you would clearly see that my wife fully supports it. But I play low limits right now. So if I am not doing any of the 3 things I listed above, I should have the ability to continue my hobby regardless of the actual stake. My wife has hobbies. She is a writer, I will go weeks without seeing her except at dinner and in the morning. That is her hobby, and like mine, she hopes to eventally make money (well, she already does actually so she beat me there!). I know she likes it and I know it is her life long passion to be a novelist/screenwriter and I deal. Just like she knows my passion for poker and her crazy belief that I can be successful at it given the time. And she is more than happy to give me that time. I guess we are both mature enough to know when it goes to far and not let it create tension. Maybe I am on the same page with you. Damn! :club:
I have no disagreement with anything you said above. Sounds like a mature and mutually fulfilling relationship. You give, she gives. Everyone's happy.
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Thats me now. Trust me, being financially secure is WAYWAYWAYWAY better then playing poker. Poker is a hobby like golf. I love it, but I love walking into any store any time and knowing I can have anything I want.And my wife still nags me about how much time I play poker.I have a weekly live game that starts at 5:30 and ends at 12:00 every Wed. That is my for sure time to play. Any other time is gravy. Marriage is work, and if you place anything over your marriage, you are not going to be happy for long. A man needs a house that he can rest at. If you are fighting with your wife, you have no rest. On the other hand if you make efforts to make your wife happy, she will do the same thing. So be the first one to please, and watch how much comes back.Everyone who bragged about telling their wife how it is, sleeps alone or soon will.
If anything, I say defintiely take this tid bit to heart.nh Balloon. :club:
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So Ben are you looking to play professionally or just goofing around.Also I bought my GF some very expensive tickets to Spamalot (had to go to a scalper) and I made sure to mention that I wouldn't be able to afford this if I didn't play poker. All arguments seemed to fade.

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I can't speak for "most" marriages. I can speak for mine. That's good enough for me.
That's what I said at the 9 year mark in my first marriage, just before I found out she was **** my boss. The things I gave up for her! So now I'm a bit more reluctant to give up the things I like for the promises of eternal happiness from others. Just something to consider. It's always a balancing act, but if you start giving up bits of yourself for the elusive happiness of others, you'll lose both.
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My wife doesn't always mind me playing poker, but she does get annoyed from time to time.
:club: My husband is the one that gets annoyed just like this. He plays also, but the long hours he works he wants to see me when he gets home. Not my fault that most of my league tournaments are at night when he is off work LOL. No seriously though, I let him know several days in advance if I am going to need the computer any given night for such things. He usually understands.Compromise is such a wonderful thing :D
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I find some of the replies on this thread really, really sad. Many, many people apparently really suck at life.
I couldn't agree more.
So Ben are you looking to play professionally or just goofing around.
by no means am I playing, or looking to play professionally. I'm just a recreational player who used to play more than I currently do. There has never been an ultimatum, nor has she ever told me not to play.I'm new to this whole living w/ your signifigant other game, and I was really just seeing how other people adjusted to a similar situation. Obviously some posters are well-adjusted to it, and others are just plain INSANE.
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