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I can give more info if needed but here is the basics...So I fall for this girl I have been dating for the last 6 months. I would marry her, and for awhile she even talked about it herself. Recently she has been unhappy and we are taking a "break". We have spent the last 5 days on our break barely talking and only seeing each for a couple of minutes. And today I finally gave up and called and told her I was tired of the way things were. I find myself doing stupid stuff like this and it seems like I am pushing her away. Some people say let her have her time but it has been such a change. She had our whole future planned out and it has just came to a grinding halt. Some say it is couse of her graduating and looking for jobs and others say she is cheating. I don't know.What I do know is that this sucks, but i really don't want to lose her. I am leaving tomorrow on a trip to the casino with a buddy. I am not sure how to handle it, leave her alone til I get back or what...I am just not the type of person to sit around and wait for things to go bad. Or to let them go bad and then just say **** it. It jsut sucks waiting for someone else to make a decision concerning you. Any advice

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dood, been there done that.went out with a girl for 4 years..bought the engagement ring and everything...same thing as you..things were good, then all of a sudden bad...i'd do something to phuck things up..then come crawling/apologizing back i'll never do this that and everything...2 weeks later same thing...now we're done and it sucks ***, but such is life....since her I have profitted way more from poker, but that's also probably b/c that's all i do now......on another note, if you think she's cheating that completely different? why would you think this? why would others? have you talked to her about it? My suggestion would be to bring it up here and there and see how consistent her story is..that's how I caught my girl..her story slowly changed over an 8 month period.....so I went and had a 3 some with her 2 best friend. GG me.shawn...

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If you really love her and want to continue to be with her, then keep fighting for what you want back. Hmmmm the decision of going to the casino tomarrow is all up to you. If you feel that you will mess up the future with her because of this trip then you gotta cancel it. Your buddy should understand if she is what you really want. I say just get everything straightened out with her and win her back and if it includes having to not go tomarrow then don't.BTW good luck and you posted in the wrong forum.

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I really don't think she is cheating. Some of my retard friends just say **** like that becasue she has been acting different.and yes gg you

dood, been there done that.went out with a girl for 4 years..bought the engagement ring and everything...same thing as you..things were good, then all of a sudden bad...i'd do something to phuck things up..then come crawling/apologizing back i'll never do this that and everything...2 weeks later same thing...now we're done and it sucks ***, but such is life....since her I have profitted way more from poker, but that's also probably b/c that's all i do now......on another note, if you think she's cheating that completely different? why would you think this? why would others? have you talked to her about it? My suggestion would be to bring it up here and there and see how consistent her story is..that's how I caught my girl..her story slowly changed over an 8 month period.....so I went and had a 3 some with her 2 best friend. GG me.shawn...
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okay that's good to here bro.well if you do decide to pop the question I have an engagement ring if you want it lol.cost me 1800$ cdn.....4 1/2 carat, 5 diamond, white gold, size 3 1/2.shawn...

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If you really love her and want to continue to be with her, then keep fighting for what you want back. Hmmmm the decision of going to the casino tomarrow is all up to you. If you feel that you will mess up the future with her because of this trip then you gotta cancel it. Your buddy should understand if she is what you really want. I say just get everything straightened out with her and win her back and if it includes having to not go tomarrow then don't.BTW good luck and you posted in the wrong forum.
thanks and you are right about the wrong forum. Sorry mods move it please
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dood, been there done that.went out with a girl for 4 years..bought the engagement ring and everything...same thing as you..things were good, then all of a sudden bad...i'd do something to phuck things up..then come crawling/apologizing back i'll never do this that and everything...2 weeks later same thing...now we're done and it sucks ***, but such is life....since her I have profitted way more from poker, but that's also probably b/c that's all i do now......on another note, if you think she's cheating that completely different? why would you think this? why would others? have you talked to her about it? My suggestion would be to bring it up here and there and see how consistent her story is..that's how I caught my girl..her story slowly changed over an 8 month period.....so I went and had a 3 some with her 2 best friend. GG me.shawn...
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shes probably a whore
Who is this guy? Everytime I go into general there are a bunch of people pissed at him. I have yet to see a single post from him that isn't bragging, stupid, or just totally assholeish.
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Who is this guy? Everytime I go into general there are a bunch of people pissed at him. I have yet to see a single post from him that isn't bragging, stupid, or just totally assholeish.
I was thinking almost the same thing
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Who is this guy? Everytime I go into general there are a bunch of people pissed at him. I have yet to see a single post from him that isn't bragging, stupid, or just totally assholeish.
He's a pro. From Foxwoods.
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Never ask strangers for personal advice.That said, BAIL!There are just too many out there bro. You are acting like a puss. She's telling you its over dude...PERIOD!Move on and GL.

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I don't want to sound like a jerk here, I can only advise based on the experiences of my friends and I. If a girl you have been serious with ever goes to the "let's take a break" phase, it means you're pretty much screwed. Sure, it could be just the things you mentioned but I think that's unlikely, wouldn't she want you there for emotional/mental support during those times? What isn't being said is what "let's take a break" really means: "Let's take a break so I can figure out what else is out there and if by chance I fail out there I want to keep you around so you can make me feel better about myself." If you want to have the terms of your relationship dictated to you by her for the rest of your life, then wait around for her and hope she comes back, which is at best a 50/50 proposition. If not, then call it a good run move on with your life and who knows maybe a few years from now after she's figured herself out you guys might find yourself back in a good relationship.

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Who is this guy? Everytime I go into general there are a bunch of people pissed at him. I have yet to see a single post from him that isn't bragging, stupid, or just totally assholeish.
I was thinking almost the same thing
He's also one of the most hated people on these forums.Don't mind him Jimmy and seriously man good luck in whatever approach you take on the situation with your girl.
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I too have been there.You gotta WALK WAY LIKE SHE NEVER EXISTED!It is your ONLY HOPE. (and a slim one) If it is over it is, and if it's not she will be back. But NEVER call or craw or appear affected in ANY WAY. You must remain as cool and calm as dirty harry facing a menagerie of murderous biker dudes.On a good note if she is not the one it is all for the best. When you do meet the one you are in for the ride of your life. I have been married for almost 10 years and each day better than the last and looking forward to tomorrow.Good luck!

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Who is this guy? Everytime I go into general there are a bunch of people pissed at him. I have yet to see a single post from him that isn't bragging, stupid, or just totally assholeish.
Hobbes...He's a no talent *** clown who post random junk in general.Thankfully he is likely too dumb to find this part of the forum.OP...I am 33...I have dated, was engaged to a girl that was broken off, now married to a different women w/ kid...Others have said it, but let me be blunt...Sorry, It's over! I need a break means...I don't want to be w/ you so i will string u along for awhile until i find my next man.For every time I have heard that line "I need a break"...99 out of 100 times the relationship ended...i can only think of one time where they got back together. (And they got divorced after 2 years!)Take it FWIW
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From what I skimmed, it appears that she's not into you right now. This doesn't mean that she never will be. Someday, she may have a change of heart. However, everything you do to try and get her back during this period will only distance you from her even more. She will begin to resent you if you're not careful. You need to distract yourself with something else for a while. Do not call her. Do not email her. Wait and try to have some fun while you do.

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Shes doing one of two things. She really wants you gone in which case just say good riddance. Shes putting you to the test to see how far youd go to get her back. If she is testing you ,shes is playing with your head and thats the last type of girl you want to marry, one who plays head games.

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I'm confused. Does she happen to be the only woman in Cookseville, TN??Cuz if not, WTF?? Move on man!It's Saturday night...go out and find some horny hottie you can hit and forget.You'll respect yourself much more in the morning.

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I can give more info if needed but here is the basics...So I fall for this girl I have been dating for the last 6 months. I would marry her, and for awhile she even talked about it herself. Recently she has been unhappy and we are taking a "break". We have spent the last 5 days on our break barely talking and only seeing each for a couple of minutes. And today I finally gave up and called and told her I was tired of the way things were. I find myself doing stupid stuff like this and it seems like I am pushing her away. Some people say let her have her time but it has been such a change. She had our whole future planned out and it has just came to a grinding halt. Some say it is couse of her graduating and looking for jobs and others say she is cheating. I don't know.What I do know is that this sucks, but i really don't want to lose her. I am leaving tomorrow on a trip to the casino with a buddy. I am not sure how to handle it, leave her alone til I get back or what...I am just not the type of person to sit around and wait for things to go bad. Or to let them go bad and then just say **** it. It jsut sucks waiting for someone else to make a decision concerning you. Any advice
dump her.
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