I Called In Sick Today

[InternetExplorer 2,609]

I don't know if you all remember, there was a single mother who was probably an 8 that was hired not long before I quit my teller job. really, really nice cans, pretty thin, and (I thought) not a total moron. you guys told me to ask her out and I actually did, but she claimed her kid was preventing it that day. I didn't pursue it further, because legitimate excuse or not, I don't beg.

 

anyway, when I was all fired up and trying to date some mother****ers last week or the week before, I emailed my former coworker to ask her what the status was on old Britney. due in January and sort of in a relationship, sort of not. I was like, "uhh, sorry I asked..." how dare Britney upset my plans with all these life decisions.

[Cha! Cha! 628]

This is great: "Trying to date some motherfuckers."

[Cha! Cha! 628]

Did you proceed on the online dating thing?

[InternetExplorer 2,609]

I did not

 

see ya later #3

[YonYonson 156]

I don't know, a raise is a big week around here. Not a lot happening for most of us

 

Congrats by the way.

[Ron_Mexico 4,219]

Pregnant, but not really dating?

 

Definitely shoulda pursued.

 

Asking more than once isn't begging. Asking 3 times is begging. A second ask is acceptable. If that is a no, then you gotta put it on them

[funyet 53]

I've got you currently at #3 on the week, but if funyet doesn't build on his girl sleepover, you might overtake him.

 

She came over last night for a couple hours, and we made out to the soothing sounds of MasterChef. (I download the torrents to write the recaps, so don't worry.) We were supposed to meet up tonight, but work got in the way. The plan is to spend the weekend together. Zoo with the kid on Saturday. She's cooking dinner on Sunday. Significant action will go down on Sunday night. I'm sure I'll at least get my suck dicked. Probably too late for me to climb any further in the Power Rankings, though.

[The Ocho 970]

Pregnant, but not really dating?

 

Definitely shoulda pursued.

 

Asking more than once isn't begging. Asking 3 times is begging. A second ask is acceptable. If that is a no, then you gotta put it on them

 

Pretty sure Essay is going to look at this from the standpoint of "see, that would be strats baby, thats why we don't have sex before marriage"

[Ron_Mexico 4,219]

 

 

Pretty sure Essay is going to look at this from the standpoint of "see, that would be strats baby, thats why we don't have sex before death"

 

FYP

[InternetExplorer 2,609]

the thought crossed my mind, but then again, I'm not a white trash piece of shit who would risk that, and I would absolutely demand that she abort it if my efforts to avoid it were in vain.

[SuitedAces21 2,723]

yeah its best to never risk sex by never bringing it up and changing the subject if she does bring it up. its very effective.

[Cha! Cha! 628]

I would absolutely demand that she abort it if my efforts to avoid it were in vain.

 

She seems like the type that would go along with that.

 

 

Funyet, power rankings run Tuesday-Monday.

[Tiltinagain 973]

Jimmy John's number 9 (italian) for lunch. I accepted the chips.

 

Oh damn... I miss that place. And that was my favorite sandwich of thiers. Add mustard and hot peppers. I mean I did. I know you're a girl so you don't like "spicy" food.

 

 

ok, so I'm going to drop this if no one responds, but just so we are clear here, you guys are saying simply, "it's a raise. take it." and don't really care that it pretty much eliminates some options that have value to me for only $4k?

 

like, I think I should be considering all the possible (and reasonable) options, not just, "take the bump and change in title because it's offered"

 

My questions were going to be the same ones cha cha asked but I'm glad to hear you decided to take it.

 

 

A couple of months, probably 3. ago my boss asked if I'd be interested in a regional manager position with the check casher side of our business and, if so, what state(s) I'd be willing to move to. (The loan and check cashers are run as 2 seperate businesses with their own management etc...) I asked her if something was up or she was just asking. She said she just wanted to know if I had any interest in case she heard of something coming open. I told her that I wouldn't want to move for a job with the check cashers but if something crazy happened and the position opened up here, I'd probably have interest.

 

Fast forward to this afternoon and she calls to tell me that the regional manager for check cashers was let go today. Didn't think of it at the time but then on the drive home I remembered the above conversation. I'm not sure I'd want the position even though I wouldn't have to move because they are run very different and the retion is pretty much FUBAR. Lot's of turnover, lack of leadership/accountability laziness etc... All of which I could work with but I don't have much knowledge of the business side of things. Not even sure they'd reach out but the last time I ran into their VP I introduced myself because we'd only met once or twice so I wasn't sure he'd remember who I was. He says "I know who you are!" (then a little quieter) "You've got a really good reputation. I know who you are". So obviously there's a positive impression there.

 

They're supposed to send out some sort of announcement about the guy leaving so I'm trying to decide if I should reach out with an inquiry into whether they have someone in mind or not for the position once they do.

[hank213 1,823]

I'm taking the promotion btw. there are like, a thousand concrete and reliable positives to it vs. one flimsy potential negative. and one of the positives is, "you get paid more money when you eventually do move to London or Sydney, if you still want to do it a year from now"

 

when my manager basically told me what was up this morning, it just kept running through my head, "well, if I take this, I'm basically their bitch for another year. and I don't want to be a bitch." but once I got over that, I realized there wasn't much actual downside to them giving me everything I could possibly gain in roughly the time frame I wanted it, plus or minus a month.

 

sorry i was awol there baby bird. work has this place blocked.

 

fwiw, i think this is the right move. accept that unless/until you are proprietor or move up to at least a director level position, you will always be someone's bitch. you are accepting a little short term suffering (locked into current team) for better long term (increase in potential earnings lifetime). remember, when you move to a new company they will ask what your pay history is like and you look for them to improve, the higher pay you can put down for most recent position the better. then magnify that over the next 40 years. with the way you change companies? you'll be pulling 50k/yr in <2 years. does this new gig carry a cryptic/nonsensical title bump? if not, that's the next thing you try and angle for, again looking to flim flam the next place. the new american dynamic for rank & file employees is to set up their marketing campaign for the next company that hires them new because once you work somewhere they will always negotiate from, what they believe to be, a position of overwhelming strength.

[Tiltinagain 973]

 

the new american dynamic for rank & file employees is to set up their marketing campaign for the next company that hires them new because once you work somewhere they will always negotiate from, what they believe to be, a position of overwhelming strength.

 

 

Very true though I'm not sure it's limited to just "rank & file employees".

[hank213 1,823]

Very true though I'm not sure it's limited to just "rank & file employees".

 

most assuredly not. but, from what I've observed, the executive level marketing games aren't as desperate for lack of a better term. if you've got an executive level c.v. your chances of finding an employment deal that isn't quite so lopsided in the employer's favor seem so much better that it is essentially the standard for those types of positions. granted my direct sample size is pretty small, and a lot of it is based of business news articles but the opportunity to fail upward to another gig with better compensation seems to be within reach of all but the most incompetent executives. look at execs for merrill, yahoo, et al.

[InternetExplorer 2,609]

you know, not that it even matters, but it's going to be great to have them break the rules to promote me over the lifetime entry level guy that smarmily told me he knew more than the newly-promoted girl, that he was getting paid more than anyone in that rank, etc.

[Dawson Leery 12]

Sounds like relaxing with some new jams would have been very bro and very mellow after that energy expenditure. Close your eyes and feel the Rythm man.

your style is like, I can't describe it. either you're doing a character and I love it/you or you're genuine and I genuinely hate you

 

Definitely a character. And I'd bet my house with my mother in it he misspelled "rhythm" as part of the character.

 

I'm taking the promotion btw. there are like, a thousand concrete and reliable positives to it vs. one flimsy potential negative. and one of the positives is, "you get paid more money when you eventually do move to London or Sydney, if you still want to do it a year from now"

 

when my manager basically told me what was up this morning, it just kept running through my head, "well, if I take this, I'm basically their bitch for another year. and I don't want to be a bitch." but once I got over that, I realized there wasn't much actual downside to them giving me everything I could possibly gain in roughly the time frame I wanted it, plus or minus a month.

 

Stratty, what would you get on the GMAT? We may need to start thinking about an MBA for you.

 

Also - move to a real city. How many times have you talked about moving (Chicago, Orlando, London, London/Sydney)? I'm Ben Affleck in Good Will Hunting and you're Will - I hope some day you just up and move, and then I go do construction work.

[SuitedAces21 2,723]

spelling has never been my strong suit. among other things.

[YonYonson 156]

Who has big weekend plans? I'm going to watch the new gosling movie on demand at some point. Real excited for that.

[YonYonson 156]

Some #ahole tried to convert a Roth to a traditional. What a idiot.

[Cha! Cha! 628]

Who has big weekend plans? I'm going to watch the new gosling movie on demand at some point. Real excited for that.

 

Which one is on demand now? The Place Beyond the Pines or Only God Forgives?

[YonYonson 156]

Actually both. But I was talking about only god forgives. Maybe I watch them both.

[Tiltinagain 973]

One of the other District Managers in our group has had a rivalry of sorts with me almost since the time I started. He's been with the company 3 or 4 years and is a world class self promoter/kiss ass. When I first started here I spent a week "training" with each of the other DM's in LA. The whole time he was telling me how he's had every district at some point because they always move him to turn around struggling districts and that he turned down the opportunity to be the next regional manager because he was more valuable to the company as a DM because of his excellence as a trainer and developing people. Uh, right. I know for a fact he was never even remotely considered for the regional position because I interviewed for it and the VP told me none of the current DM's were interviewing because they weren't ready.

 

This guy's districts is consistently last in the state and bottom 20% in the company. He's constantly having employees go to HR about him because he doesn't deal with issues, is never in stores and even told his district they weren't allowed to call him anymore. On the company issued and paid for cell phone he carries. My district has consistently been #1 in the state and top 5 in the company after about the first 90 days I was here and there have been at least 3 different things I instituted in my district that were subsequently rolled out by the regional manager as a requirement for all stores/districts after seeing the results from them in my district.

 

This other DM has constantly done things to try to bring me down or screw me over. He's talked shit about me to a couple of my store managers and every one of his, fought against every idea I've suggested etc... Recently he wanted to transfer one of his POS assistants to my district. He suggested we trade and I send him one of my strongest assistants. I told him that part wasn't happening. Why would I hand over one of my best assistants? Well he still wanted to get rid of his assistant so after I told him I wasn't interested he had her write an e-mail to HR about how her son has some sort of sickness/issue and she feels like she needs to work closer to where he goes to school in case she needs to go get him, blah blah blah. I told the HR guy straight up that I wasn't taking her because she was a very weak assistant and known has a huge shit stirrer and my boss backed me up.

 

So yesterday I find out he's been recruiting my assistant that he wants. Offering her more money (which he can't deliver) better schedule, bigger store etc...Dude is such a slime ball. I really want to punch the guy in the throat. Since I obviously can't do that I'm debating how to handle the situation. Up until now I've pretty much ignored him and let my results speak for themselves. He is somebody I have to be a little careful with because he won't hesitate to run to HR or our boss and make up a story about me if I don't handle it right. So, I turn to you sickies for suggestions. phone call? E-mail for a paper trail? Go through HR or my boss (which seems really douchey)?

[Cha! Cha! 628]

It seems like the company is on your side, so I wouldn't feel the need to try to bury this guy. But I would make sure all my dealings with him (and any assistants that are involved in whatever he's trying to do) and well documented just in case it turns into something.