I Called In Sick Today

[InternetExplorer 2,609]

she is watching her roommate's dog, and didn't want to have to get out of bed and go home at 10am tomorrow to let it out. her favorite thing to do on the weekends is to toss and turn in bed until 1-1:30pm, and then try to make me feel like an ******* for wanting to start my day earlier. so basically, if I go to her place for the sex tonight, I am there until 2pm tomorrow, and might still catch shit for wanting to leave at that point.

 

I am just not playing the 'sex as a currency' game. I can manage without it--did it for like seven years.

[SuitedAces21 2,723]

yeah, you're winning for sure.

 

[Theraflu 1,035]

You gotta reverse-shame that shit. Accomplish many things before she gets out of bed. Or just leave and go do stuff for 4 hours and then come back with coffee. You can get yours, and have it your way.

[Theraflu 1,035]

I start the shaming process if she's in bed until like 9. I can't fathom non-hangover related sleep-ins until after noon.

[iZuma 764]

I got to thinking today, I think it's been over a month since I've banged my girlfriend.

 

So I had five different smart ass responses ready but really, seriously? Unless she was sexually assaulted recently, get your shit together. She's gonna get one, yours or otherwise. Chad's coming. Get there first.

[Theraflu 1,035]

Chad?

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[iQuack 128]

she is watching her roommate's dog, and didn't want to have to get out of bed and go home at 10am tomorrow to let it out. her favorite thing to do on the weekends is to toss and turn in bed until 1-1:30pm, and then try to make me feel like an ******* for wanting to start my day earlier. so basically, if I go to her place for the sex tonight, I am there until 2pm tomorrow, and might still catch shit for wanting to leave at that point.

 

I am just not playing the 'sex as a currency' game. I can manage without it--did it for like seven years.

 

What is the excuse for the other 30 days? I'm guessing 4-5 for heavy flow issues, but beyond that I can't fathom. It's way too early to be playing the "sex is currency" game. She should still want it at this point. Unless you tore her vagina...

[JubilantLankyLad 1,957]

I start the shaming process if she's in bed until like 9. I can't fathom non-hangover related sleep-ins until after noon.

I remember that being fathomable.

 

 

[brvheart 1,759]

I renew my call for a more complete story. How did you find out? What is the basic chronology?

 

**** it. I'm still pissed and I'm not getting better, so I'm just going to post inappropriate stuff. I'll probably end up deleting it this weekend, but whatever.

 

These are the people involved.

 

My friend (English Bob):

 

 

 

 

I would consider him to be near a 9 in real life. He's exceptionally good looking; plus English accent. Frau, you can decide his final rating.

 

This is his wife, who is my only not-coworker:

 

 

 

 

A few pics of them together:

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

So American non-coworker (Let's call her Cindy) isn't ugly. She is probably at least a 7/8 for most people.

 

 

 

 

The married co-workers, the female of which [Maid of Honor] cheated with Bob:

 

(Lets call them Band and MoH)

 

 

 

 

She is definitely above average in the looks department. I would rate her a solid 7/8 in person. She is also very kind. Everyone likes her. I've never heard her gossip or talk trash about anyone.

 

More pics of the MoH:

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

A few pictures with some of them together:

 

Cindy [in the middle] and MoH girl on the right:

 

 

 

 

 

English Bob, random girl, Band, MoH:

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Someone at work walked in on Bob and MoH making out. MoH's husband, Band, is an instructor here (Bob and MoH are both assistants/TA's), so 3 out of the 4 people were co-workers.

 

 

Cindy and Bob were at our house two Sunday's ago and stayed for like 6 hours.

 

 

This just happened on Thursday, so neither couple is divorced yet, but MoH and Band are definitely through.

 

I'm not sure about Bob and Cindy. Obviously, I'm going to be pushing for reconciliation, but that's not always possible (or good). Plus, if my asshat friend is just going to cheat on her again, screw that.

 

I found out today that it's been going on for several months. (Bob/Cindy were married in mid-December. Affair started in like April/May.)

 

 

I tried to give you a good sampling of pictures. I'm going over to his place tomorrow, so I should know a lot more tomorrow.

[The Ocho 970]

I think id bang every one of them except band. He looks queer fwiw.

[CobaltBlue 662]

Ohhh...okay, I have the story straight now. So Bob, MoH, and Band are all your co-workers. Bob and MoH got it on. You feel badly for Band (and Bob's wife) and are mad at Bob (and MoH probably).

 

Dunno how to best advise. I do know that cheaters tend to not reform (it's possible...just rare). Depends on how much damage has been done and how motivated they are to repair things. There's a site called marriagebuilders.com that has a lot of material on steps to take. It's not explicitly Christian, though I think a lot of the underlying thought matches up.

[InternetExplorer 2,609]

What is the excuse for the other 30 days? I'm guessing 4-5 for heavy flow issues, but beyond that I can't fathom. It's way too early to be playing the "sex is currency" game. She should still want it at this point. Unless you tore her vagina...

she is usually down to bang, I'm just not pushing for it. I don't want to be in the relationship anymore. great person, good looking, but no ambition, and rushing to get serious. the girl doesn't have it in her to cheat.

 

I don't remember if I got into it here, but we work in the same office, and she has received terrible raises for the last two years. her attitude has nosedived to the point where she is openly rude to management. I am trying to get her to job search and move on, for her own good, and to make the break easier on us both. she got the news of her 5% raise like three months ago and has applied to a total of one job. this is one of the big reasons why I cannot see myself getting serious with her.

[JubilantLankyLad 1,957]

Well if you don't want to be in the relationship anymore, you should end it. It's not healthy to wait and it's never going to be easy, but at the moment there's a foursome of hot slutty people that brv can introduce you to, so hop on that train imo.

[JubilantLankyLad 1,957]

I think id bang every one of them except band. He looks queer fwiw.

I was thinking the same thing. High-five! In Eiffel Tower configuration!

[InternetExplorer 2,609]

yeah those people are gorgeous.

[JubilantLankyLad 1,957]

Also, Cindy should have stayed a blonde and MoH should have not. Oh well.

[SuitedAces21 2,723]

i think it's pretty clear what happened. MoH was unhappy because she married a gay guy and english bob was unhappy because his wife looks different in every picture and put on some weight. bob and moh spent too much time together, next thing you know he's inside her. i seen it a hundred times.

[Napa_Don 688]

I would never cheat on Cindy, fwiw brvy.

[frautotenkinder 1,025]

Brvy thank you for coming through with details. It's interesting the male/female split--I was just texting about this with a friend last night. He had sex with "a larger woman" and really enjoyed it. The tits, I'm saying he really enjoyed the tits. He asked me what I think women really enjoy, without fail. I told him the guy has to make me laugh, and needs to like women.

 

Are any of those people funny? Get past the needy stand-up comedian stuff. Do they genuinely make you laugh in a boring meeting? If yes, please pm their personal contact info, and I'll reach out in 12 months or so.

[Napa Lite 3,279]

Whoa, hey, I already got dibs on Cindy. Xe looks like a xe who'd be into xudes who like classic motorcycles and woodworking and ugly shoes.

 

Unless you're going to wingxem for me. Then by all means, brv, give Frau Cindy's number.

 

I don't care how funny xe is. I'm conversationally funny enough for the both of us.

[brvheart 1,759]

 

she is usually down to bang. great person, good looking, and rushing to get serious. the girl doesn't have it in her to cheat.

 

Yeah. She sounds hideous.

 

 

In all seriousness, rude people are a major turnoff.

[Tiltinagain 973]

Also, Cindy should have stayed a blonde and MoH should have not. Oh well.

 

Same. First pic she is a hottie. Not quite as much as a brunette. And what SA said about the weight gain. And what Ocho said about banging them all, er, the women.

 

Shitty situation though. I've had friends, male and female, that have cheated/been cheated on but never a situation like this where I was friends with two couples who cross pollinated. I know I'd be pissed though.

 

Maybe they should just swap wives and live happily ever after?

[Napa Lite 3,279]

brvy can you go check out a bike in Geneseo for me? Maybe use your charm and mountainesque stature to talk xem down a few hundo? Perhaps throw in a kid for slave labor to sweeten the deal?

[CobaltBlue 662]

Eagerly played last night. Won $700 in 6 hours, so I guess I should be happy, but these days if it's not four figures, it feels like break even. Got 10th in a decent MTT...busted when SB raised and then called off with Q2s. Also had AA < TT aipf at 10/20 HU for $2.6k each...so that sucked. Few sessions lately that have had gobs of potential but end up being relatively mediocre.

[Tiltinagain 973]

Back to plus 100 degrees today. Heading up to watch my nephews do a karate demonstration at the fair, up in the mountains so it should be much cooler.