I Called In Sick Today

[ShakeZuma 585]

Being ignored hurts worse than a no, I think. Cuz you KNOW that bitch got the text and she just fcking deleted it.

no that's not true a lot of my texts never make it to people that I send them to for some reason

And my little sister is coming up since she turns 21 that weekend

HEYOOOO putting in for vacation tomorrow!

my mother in law got hurt at the doctors office

I do find it weird that she won't even consider your son's recommendation. it would be him and the gloria allred woman teaming up, right? seems like that would be ideal. only reason I could think she wouldn't would be the whole mixing business with family thing but that doesn't account for the woman lawyer. personally I think I'd be a bit confused (though not mad. plus, like others have said, helping your son shouldn't be any part of her decision here) myself here, but in the end, it's still her mother, so even if it's not rational, it's her decision. I'd bet that her brother is pressuring her not to let your son do it.

Plus let's not forget Im neither attractive or charming or rich.

nor good at using commas!

[brvheart 1,752]

Oh, she definitely remembers me. I threw up on her at the bar. Kidding. About the throw up part anyways. Her sorority was paired with my frat for something and so we got to know each other and then we kind of ran in similar circles in college do we'd run into each other. She always had a boyfriend though, so I didn't really persue anything. Plus I'm a pussy. Randomly ran into her at a bar last fall and made it known to her I'd like to take her out and she seemed at the least indifferent (she did give me her number), but I was kinda drunk at the time so maybe I misread the entire situation. And then got busy and never followed up. Now with CPA studies coming to a close I have time for such tom foolery since she doesn't live in the same town as me, but close enough.

Yeah, the worst thing that could happen is she say yes and then I have to actually go on a date and find stuff to talk about in order to get to the part of the relationship where we just co-exist and I pay for stuff.

You're overestimating how many friends I have. Plus most of us are all out of school and moved. She's just still in grad school. Which is kinda why I was thinking of manufacturing a run in with our mutual friend. Idk. I hate myself. Plus there's almost no way she has my number so I'd have to do the "hey this is napa...wanna bang?" text. Or something. I should just give up.

My goodness, Clint. Caleb's idea of just texting and letting her know a bunch of you are hanging out and you'd like to see her was best, but you need a girlfriend badly, and your bashfulness is destroying your opportunity. What you need to do is just join e-harmony or something and take it slow. You'll meet someone quickly.

Oh what the fck. I'll try to keep it short.Okay, a month ago my mother in law got hurt at the doctors office. Spinal injury, serious stuff. There is going to be a huge lawsuit obviously. Easy case of negligence. My son is an attorney. He shares an office with a big time civil attorney basically so he can learn from her. 25 years of experience, done mass tort, extremely qualified for this case, worked for Stan Chelsey the largest civil litigator in the world for 18 years. . Other firms higher her for this type of case since she's an expert. When I originally called my son he put her on the phone and she knew the hospital, doctors, injury, etc.... She gave intitial advice on what the family should be doing like not contacting the place it happened, taking pictures and keeping a journal, etc.Bottom line is my wife and her brother don't want to hire her or my son. They won't even meet with them. She called her (ex) divorce attorney and had him reccomend someone. The case would be huge for my son's career down the road as far as civil litigation and also, why would you want all the lawyer's fees to go to some stranger? If they weren't qualified to handle it would be one thing, but that isn't the case and she clearly does not even want to discuss it.Furthermore, I am the guy who has spent the last 5 years helping to take care of her mom, because you know, it was family.

Well, thanks I guess.But, I believe there is more to it if you think through it a little more. And sorry, but I am obviously taking it very personally. My son isn't happy about it either. It will likely create a long time rift between her and my son as well. Other issues, once this gets going the civil attorneys will be out to get every dime possible and won't give two cents over the turmoil they put my wife through. My son would provide a level of honesty to look out for her personally, better communication, and trust than any other attorney. My oldest brother has been the director of legal services for one of the largest health insurance companies in the US, and said he wouldn't think twice about hiring her and my son if it was our mom or his mother-in-law. Again, why give all that money to some stranger if you didn't have to? And yes, the possiblility is that something could go wrong, but you are taking that chance with any attorney and no one thinks this is anything other than a slam dunk. It's really going to be more about the amount of the settlement and if you simply max out the insurance available, or go to trial and get more.

I can sympathize with that. But it isn't "someone" it's her step-son. And her original reason was that the lawyer he reccomended wasn't a "personal injury attorney" or specialist. I got her resume and a list of similar and larger cases she worked on. She's extremely qualified and she is unlikely to hire someone better. Also, she doesn't understand that the "ex-divorce attorney" will likely get half this settlement for refering it as well, and he is extremely un-qualified as well. In fact, I told her that she could find an attorney or firm she liked better, she could still hire my son as well and make it a requirement, which any firm would understand and still love to take the case.No matter how she "wants to view it" it is still the reality of the situation. She could help my son or buy some strange lawyer a yacht if you get what I am saying.

I agree with everyone else. It's not your decision, and it doesn't matter if he would be free and work harder. It's only downside, if they are already against hiring him. It's weird they won't talk with him about it, but it's kind of irrelevant.

Don't worry, Randy, brvheart will pray for you.

Only if it's Tuesday.

[SuitedAces21 2,722]

I was in KC all day, visiting the new Mormon temple that just opened on the north side. I like KC, but Mormonism makes me really sad.

what the hell man? we could have finally put all our differences behind us with a celebratory lap dance. dammit brvy. also, this is the first post from my new mac. i know i was to get one a while ago but i just now did so deal with it.

[InternetExplorer 2,609]

I had my parents get something from panera for me. you guessed it, a turkey sandwich consisting of 920 calories. WHAT THE FUCK HOW ARE YOU WORSE THAN A DQPC.

[Ron_Mexico 4,219]

Bacon turkey bravo is the titsHave them grill that shit

[InternetExplorer 2,609]

800also worse than a DQPCthis is totally baffling

[SuitedAces21 2,722]

Since we're just doling out advice lately...need some thoughts on a plan to get back into contact with girl who's number I got like 6 months ago and then never called or anything. I feel like its to late to just straight up call her and ask her out at this point.So, I'm thinking, in two weeks my alma mater (where she is currently enrolled) had its annual campus celebration that used to be one of the largest student run events in the country, but has since been scaled back due to budget cuts and rioting. I'm probably going to go back for a day since I know some friends that will be coming back for it. Now the likelihood of just randomly running into her again is super low since everywhere will be packed. However, we have a mutual friend (girl) whom I think I could get to text her to meet up at some bar and just happen to "casually" come across them and reopen communications. I, mean, it's all still kind of a longshot, but worth a shot? Too creepy? End game (other than banging) is I'd really like to be able to take her as a date to a mutual friends wedding in June so I don't have to roll solo (and you know, to bang) and I don't see myself being able to find a date otherwise between them and now.

my thoughts: either text her yourself with a friendly notice that you and some people will be out and she should join in, or have this mutual friend set it up if the mutual friend can be trusted not to go blabbing about you asking her too. unless you want her to blab it and see how this girl reacts.

You call her and ask her if she's going.

you dated yourself with this one. nobody calls anybody anymore old man.

So on Friday I am sitting in my office with two other guys from my office. One of them says, hey I got a funny story to tell you. I replied "I'll be the judge of that, but my guess is, if it doesn't involve rape, it's really not going to be funny" He says, "ummm, no, no rape". I looked at him annoyed and wave my hand in a manner that says "fine, proceed with your rapeless story"The story he tells is actually about a guy who is subletting an office and is a convicted child molester and child pornographer. I then stopped him, and said in a more upbeat and interested tone, "so you were holding out on me, it IS about rape." The other guy who really hadn't said anything just lost it at this point. He (the story teller) then agreed, that the story is indeed about rape.

mmmmhhmmm, rape - always funny.

Well, thanks I guess.But, I believe there is more to it if you think through it a little more. And sorry, but I am obviously taking it very personally. My son isn't happy about it either. It will likely create a long time rift between her and my son as well. Other issues, once this gets going the civil attorneys will be out to get every dime possible and won't give two cents over the turmoil they put my wife through. My son would provide a level of honesty to look out for her personally, better communication, and trust than any other attorney. My oldest brother has been the director of legal services for one of the largest health insurance companies in the US, and said he wouldn't think twice about hiring her and my son if it was our mom or his mother-in-law. Again, why give all that money to some stranger if you didn't have to? And yes, the possiblility is that something could go wrong, but you are taking that chance with any attorney and no one thinks this is anything other than a slam dunk. It's really going to be more about the amount of the settlement and if you simply max out the insurance available, or go to trial and get more.

ethically speaking i have to say that it is her decision and she can make it in any way she wants. personally though, i say fuck that shit. she should let your son wet his beak on this thing; great for him, great for everybody.

[Sickinfo2 291]

First off, I'm pissed I missed turdseyBravey, shouldda quizzed me ahead of time about gambling conditions up thereRando, trust me on this one... Avoid family decisions like the plague. I won't suggest not using the bathroom with the stopped up toilet at family gatherings. I just sit in the corner drinking. You'll be much happier in the end by doing the sameNappy/strat.... I don't know where to begin, so I won'tThere's more but I forget right now

[speedz99 145]

I was in KC all day, visiting the new Mormon temple. Mormonism makes me really sad.

I also voluntarily spend full days visiting places that make me sad.

I had my parents get something from panera for me. you guessed it, a turkey sandwich consisting of 920 calories. WHAT THE FUCK HOW ARE YOU WORSE THAN A DQPC.

There's really a lot of calories in good, thick bread.

[CaneBrain 95]

Randy,I think the fact they won't even meet with your son is very strange and disconcerting.However, if it is really a simple negligence case, whoever they hire should be fine ultimately.

[CaneBrain 95]

Randy,I think the fact they won't even meet with your son is very strange and disconcerting.However, if it is really a simple negligence case, whoever they hire should be fine ultimately.

[CaneBrain 95]

Randy,I think the fact they won't even meet with your son is very strange and disconcerting.However, if it is really a simple negligence case, whoever they hire should be fine ultimately.

[speedz99 145]

Yeah, we get it.

[SuitedAces21 2,722]

goddamn what an amateur.

[brvheart 1,752]

Yeah, we get it.

haha

I also voluntarily spend full days visiting places that make me sad.

I spend a lot of time talking to Mormons, so I need to know about their religion. New temples are only open to the public for three weeks as an open house, and after that you have to have a temple recommend card and be a super good, awesome Mormon to go into the Temple. So it's kind-of important to hit the open house dates of these things, if you want a look "behind the curtain", so to speak.

[hank213 1,823]

finally passes one little exam and thinks he knows so much he has to say it 3 times.

[vbnautilus 48]

Rando, The fact that you have such a vested interest in your son taking the case, and feel so strongly emotional about, makes your opinion about his ability to handle the case inherently biased and suspect. It's common to be wary in general of mixing family and business -- if it doesn't work out great, that will be a very uncomfortable position for your son and wife. I can see why she would not want to get mixed up in all that, especially given how personal you are already making it.

[Sickinfo2 291]

Yeah....Yeah.....Yeah....I'm either responding to Caine or listening to the BeatlesAnyway, I still think giving important advice to the wife is bad news. I'll never forget last year when the wife came to me with a life altering problem..."hey... You up?"(beans looks up from under car)"yeah""what time you get in last night?""I'm in?""yeah... Hey, do you know what a flooz and a tibits is?""I've never touched either one of them... Promise""no dummy... They are supposed to be somewhere in the kitchen""I didn't bring them here""no... They're something used in a pie"(beans crawls out and looks at book she's holding)"uh..lemme see""uh.... Those mean fluid ounces and tablespoon""oh... Well come in afterwhile and try a piece"If only I'd pretended not to know there would be much less needless suffering around the icewater plantation....

[ShakeZuma 585]

Yeah, we get it.

bet the fucker'll charge us three times for that tooalso, napa: no idea why you're so concerned about this girl. be a man, forget she ever existed and stay at home by yourself on weekends. LIKE A MAN.

[Roll the Bones 74]

Rando, The fact that you have such a vested interest in your son taking the case, and feel so strongly emotional about, makes your opinion about his ability to handle the case inherently biased and suspect. It's common to be wary in general of mixing family and business -- if it doesn't work out great, that will be a very uncomfortable position for your son and wife. I can see why she would not want to get mixed up in all that, especially given how personal you are already making it.

Oh, I admit and have admitted quite readily that I am biased. I admit that I am quite emotional about it as well. I am good at walking away and not letting my temper of feelings make my ass override my mouth. I am also quite skilled at communicating that I will ultimately support her decision as a good husband should. But, that doesn't mean inside I am not ****ing furious and ready to blow a gasket. I know she should hire the best attorney to make sure her mother gets the money she will need for care. But, well here's the situation.Grandma is 80 with Parkinsons, uses a walker and goes real slow, has shakes on left side. Nurse puts her up on an examing table with no rails or support. (It was a podiatrist who was going to cut her toenails.) No clue how she even accomplished that. It's like resting an egg on a ruler, and left her there for 10 minutes. She fell off and severed her spine. Paralyzed from chest down. Ha had major complications. Has a trach tube in her throat since her lungs don't work properly. A feeding tube since she can't swallow. Is basically a quadrapelegic. Will never breathe on her own, eat on her own, go home, etc.. Bills will be well over a million, likely more if she does live a while. If not, the money goes to the estate. Docter's have a higher duty of care. I assume part of that is not breaking your neck while you are in his office. As for my son, and I know this isn't a reason to give him the case, it would be immensely valuable civil experience throughout his entire career. I hate to say this, but these type of cases don't come easily and would be huge experience wise. And yes, the fees will be huge obviously. Again, not a reason to hire him, but then again not wanting him to have it is another thing to consider. And yes, I wouldn't think twice about hiring someone in the family. I wouldn't want all that money going to a stranger. And I am sorry, but I could also care less about her ex-divorce attorney getting the money simply for refering the case and doing what my son would be doing. Who do you want to get the money?As mentioned, no one would work harder than him or be more honest, or have better communication, or look out for my wife's interest in my opinion.The brother is a jackass. I think ICU held a party when her mom left because they didn't have to deal with him anymore. He loves to belittle people, isn' t that smart, and is like I said, a jackass. They have her in a special hospital for now, and they put up guards after 8PM which I am sure was due to his raising hell about something. If this goes to trial, he is the kind of guy that will relish spending endless days in court and depositions, my wife will hate and loathe it. He will want to draw it out as long as possible, my wife won't. My son could be a huge buffer here to protect her. Also, I am sure he doesn't want my son because of fear that he won't be able to push him around and raise hell needlessly. Conversely, if it should go to trial, I believe he would try to protect my wife as much as possible as well from the expected onslaught the opposing attornies will likely bring as much as possible. No attorney will have my wife's interest more at heart, or look to make sure that my mother-in-law gets her due. Cane- you honestly wouldn't be upset if your wife's parents hired another attorney instead of you in this case?

[JubilantLankyLad 1,957]

Not really your decision to make, man. Sorry. No reason to get worked up about it. I bet you're taking it harder than your kid is.

I need to know why they don't want to hire her or your son. And it should be your decision anyway. Unless it's her money that is paying the attorney fees.Edit: Oh, I thought it was your mother, not mother in law. So never mind about that.

first read, no other comments clouding my opinion, I'm siding with your wife here.would you really want your son mixed up in it if it turns out to be way less lucrative than previously imagined?

Sorry Rando, I'm with them. Sure, would it be good for his career if shit goes right? Absolutely. But I think there is too much risk if it doesn't go just as everyone wants. It could create resentment. Keep it a business transaction with a lawyer that was referred. Best to start fresh with a qualified guy. That way there is no family conflict, he can easily be fired, etc. As a parent, I'm sure you want to help your son and also believe that he's the best for the job, but since it's her mother, you have to defer. As much as it pains you and as much as you've done for her, you gotta take the backseat on this one. And just start putting all the old people you know in a home. Stop being so damn nice

Been nice knowing you, Timdog.

[iZuma 764]

personally I'm a big fan of randy's style of advice taking

[JubilantLankyLad 1,957]

personally I'm a big fan of randy's style of advice taking

looooooool

[CaneBrain 95]

finally passes one little exam and thinks he knows so much he has to say it 3 times.

I laughed. ****ing crappy internet.I'm also 30 now. But, I still look 22 and only need to shave every other day, tops. I think I have some sort of psuedo Benjamin Button thing going on.

[Roll the Bones 74]

personally I'm a big fan of randy's style of advice taking

haha, obviously they aren't that convincing! I know I need to put it down and walk away, but I falso fear it will forever cause problems within my family. It would always (or for a time) be awkward getting together with her around possibly.