I Called In Sick Today

[Dawson Leery 12]

oh, and uh, I wouldn't worry too much about what he's doing for at least 3 to 5 years.

Yeah, how is he going to support his new wife and baby?

I have no idea what's going on, but I'm not surprised by any of the possibilities running through my head. I think that's a compliment to Wang.

[Napa_Don 688]

Seems a little extreme to get out of paying that $120 he owes me...

[ShakeZuma 585]

so uh, these storms are something aren't they? yeah, if I just stop posting after tonight, it isn't because I went to jail; it's because I'm a fucking pancake under my house.go to the weather channel and look at some of the pictures of tuscaloosa. I really wish I had a basement.

[vbnautilus 48]

like they don't have the internet in jail.

[DrawingDeadInDM 0]

and this isnt important? contact with a super slutty ex?

Admittedly platonic contact with said ex? No. Not at all. DUCY?

[DinkDonk 1]

Admittedly platonic contact with said ex? No. Not at all. DUCY?

Hey, not tactful phrasing. Next time go with "Just date DinkDonk."

[SuitedAces21 2,722]

DUCY?

[brvheart 1,752]

I got called a prominent Ames businessman in a lawsuit filed today.* BOOM!ps. I'm not a businessman [anymore] and I don't live in Ames.*I am not a party in the aforementioned suit, but man, I really wish Cane and Suited were looking at this lawsuit with me. This is funny funny stuff.

[JubilantLankyLad 1,957]

Yes, even Shake's car.

[Poppy_Hillis 11]

TONEH

I've been waiting for somebody to do that.

[LadyGrey 6]

It's typically not the healthiest thing to remain that close, and certainly a bad sign that he's lying about it. I feel like Tony has a lot of growing up to do in terms of handling both current and former relationships. What you're going through is pretty standard for dating...2-3 months is usually when you have to decide to let yourself really get in deep, or that it's not going to work out in the long run. That said, you're pretty young to just throw up your hands and say, "Well, there's a chance that this is as good as it gets, so I'll just go with it."

He does have a lot to learn, but he is trying. He just doesn't see why he can't be friendly (not close friends) with his ex, and I understand that. He has only known me since late January, I have no right to demand that he cut off contact with someone he has known for several years. I'm not thinking about the long run. I take my relationship with Tony day by day and I'm happy that way. I'm not giving up and settling for him - there is no commitment happening here. We are exclusively seeing each other (girlfriend&boyfriend), that's it. It's not a big decision to be with him, I'm not expecting it to last forever.

I concur with this so long as "progress to" doesn't imply that all these little things that he does that she hates is going to change.

He is working on the little things and is improving. He has been checking his phone much less, making more effort to entertain me and do other things I have expressed.

If you are Tony having some contact with an ex-gf that you are really not interested in (except perhaps in the way that you like to glare at an old trophy on the mantle from time to time), and you value your relationship with LG, its definitely in both of your interests to downplay the interaction with the ex.

Previously he has been open with me about his contact with her. When she texted him and it flashed on his screen and I saw it, he showed me it and explained the context (he had deleted all the previous messages so her text alone was clearly replying to something he said). I was really happy that he had been so honest with me and showed me that it was nothing. I tried to get him to do the same the other day but he wouldn't (because he knew there were so many messages).At the end of the day, I am distrustful about his ex, but he is probably distrustful of me about his phone. We have both deceived each other a little. I think the way to go forward is to stop looking at his phone, to keep an eye on his ex gf but to give him a lot of space. The less he thinks I care about what he does with his ex, the less naughty he will feel texting her and it might lose some of the interest to communicate with her. Right now maybe he finds it exciting because he knows it is kind of taboo. I think I should just stop asking about her, mentioning her etc and act like I trust him completely. I don't want him to think I am clingy or jealous. And I don't want to be clingy or jealous. At the end of the day, this is a young relationship that I want to have fun with, not be serious and worried about. I need to enjoy being with him and not worry about the future. If he ends up cheating on me or something that will be shit, but if I act jealous and suspicious it will only drive him away from me and make it more likely to happen.

[brvheart 1,752]

Other than partaking in the joys of premarital bliss, (I'm looking at you Speedz) I fully agree with LG and what her plans are going forward. It seems like it's very reasonable.

[ShakeZuma 585]

Other than partaking in the joys of premarital bliss, (I'm looking at you Speedz) I fully agree with LG and what her plans are going forward. It seems like it's very reasonable.

and now she has to completely change them.I'm still alive! for now.also, I didn't understand lanky's joke about my car.

[Dawson Leery 12]

Previously he has been open with me about his contact with her. When she texted him and it flashed on his screen and I saw it, he showed me it and explained the context (he had deleted all the previous messages so her text alone was clearly replying to something he said). I was really happy that he had been so honest with me and showed me that it was nothing. I tried to get him to do the same the other day but he wouldn't (because he knew there were so many messages).

Does anyone else think it's shady he deletes all of his texts?

[speedz99 145]

I mean think about it. If she brings it up it will end up with a fight at best and hurt feelings at worse, for what? Odds are they are going to break up eventually and they can do all that fighting and hurt feeling stuff later. Shit, just have fun and don't sweat the little things. If you find out later he's an idiot so what, you'll move on then. Don't waste time looking for dumb stuff to fight over, enough real stuff will happen unavoidably.

That's fair.

Put a mustache on this post and it's everything I love about Rando.

Heh.

I really wish I had a basement.

Why must you set us up like this?

He does have a lot to learn, but he is trying. He just doesn't see why he can't be friendly (not close friends) with his ex, and I understand that. He has only known me since late January, I have no right to demand that he cut off contact with someone he has known for several years. At the end of the day, this is a young relationship that I want to have fun with, not be serious and worried about. I need to enjoy being with him and not worry about the future. If he ends up cheating on me or something that will be shit, but if I act jealous and suspicious it will only drive him away from me and make it more likely to happen.

That all sounds very reasonable. Now go have some good "you know that I know that you know that I know" sex.

Other than partaking in the joys of premarital bliss, (I'm looking at you Speedz)

Um...why?

Does anyone else think it's shady he deletes all of his texts?

It's like constantly deleting your internet browsing history...you don't always have porn on there, but you have to be consistent so it's not obvious when you do delete it for a reason.

[Tiltinagain 973]

and now she has to completely change them.I'm still alive! for now.also, I didn't understand lanky's joke about my car.

Anybody heard from Shake? The news this morning is talking about Tuscalussa (sp) being pretty much demolished last night.Probably no phone or internet service so I'm not sure he could check in if he wanted to. Maybe cell phones are still working I suppose.Anyway, good luck man. Hope your roof held up last night.

[Dawson Leery 12]

so uh, these storms are something aren't they? yeah, if I just stop posting after tonight, it isn't because I went to jail; it's because I'm a fucking pancake under my house.go to the weather channel and look at some of the pictures of tuscaloosa. I really wish I had a basement.

I thought you lived in Virginia? Just because Tuscaloosa is "in the south" doesn't mean it's like right next to you.

[JubilantLankyLad 1,957]

Hugely.

Does anyone else think it's shady he deletes all of his texts?

[Skeleton Jelly 2]

Hugely.

Nice Jeopardy-style post.BBC?Shake, if you're alive, don't click on that. If you're dead, can I have your new car?

[JubilantLankyLad 1,957]

My browser doesn't like FCP anymore for some reason. I can't copy, paste, right click, or even see a cursor. If I start typing, it shows up at the top, and I can't move it. It's weird. I wish there was a thread where I could ask for help.

Nice Jeopardy-style post.BBC?Shake, if you're alive, don't click on that. If you're dead, can I have your new car?

[mrdannyg 274]

LG - why would you ask him a question you knew the answer to? That is a relationship-ending tendency. If you know something, ask him about it. Sounds odd, but you'll have his trust even after you snooped, because he knows you'll bring up problematic issues, so he doesn't have to worry you're ever stewing on anything. And since he is far more likely to be honest this way, instead of having to hang himself, you'll be able to trust him more going forward.

[Skeleton Jelly 2]

My browser doesn't like FCP anymore for some reason. I can't copy, paste, right click, or even see a cursor. If I start typing, it shows up at the top, and I can't move it. It's weird. I wish there was a thread where I could ask for help.

lol Firefox

[Skeleton Jelly 2]

so uh, these storms are something aren't they?

They are indeed something.

[iZuma 764]

I thought you lived in Virginia? Just because Tuscaloosa is "in the south" doesn't mean it's like right next to you.

THERE WAS A TORNADO 30 MILES FROM ME, JERK

[SBriand 4]

They are indeed something.