poker ends relationship

[Dixie Wrecked 0]

There is definitely a balance between the wife/gf and poker. Women have different wiring than men and require a lot more attention as I am still learning as a newlywed. Compromise is key. I definitely spend a lot less time playing online while spending time with her and only go to the casino when she's at work. This works out well, I still get plenty of poker playing time in and have a great family life. She notices my efforts and is even sometimes telling me, "Why dont you go play some poker tonight and win big."Keep your chin up and best wishes.

[angler 0]

Very similar thing happened to me, with my career. Spouse was very supportive of my decision. When preparing for it began to take time from her or us, it became a problem. Those two didn't compute. My job was my dream job and she knew it. She is a great person and will be tough to replace.

[brian67 0]

That's harsh man. The poker life isn't for everyone, and it can't be fun for a serious girlfriend or wife to ride out during the many lows that just happen. You don't wanna live life with regrets. Unfortunately this may be one of those things where you regret it either way you play it.

[guinevar 0]

I would give up poker for my girl in a heartbeat.  There is more to life than poker.

There is more to a relationship then giving up your passions.

Royal,Following your logic, I suppose poker is not one of my passions. My heart burns for greater things.-Neal

[iveyfan30 0]

whats important to some is less important than others...i think its selfish for a person to ask you to give up something you obviously love to do ..seems that a person that really loved you wouldnt force your hand like that...i do agree that making more time for her would have been a smart move...my wife and i both play and she never complains about time i spend playing...of course she is currently sleeping with 7 other men, but at least we are still together.... :shock: sw or maybe not .... :cry: is it bad if my kid comes out lookin like freddy deeb?

[brian67 0]

whats important to some is less important than others...i think its selfish for a person to ask you to give up something you obviously love to do ..seems that a person that really loved you wouldnt force your hand like that...i do agree that making more time for her would have been a smart move...my wife and i both play and she never complains about time i spend playing...of course she is currently sleeping with 7 other men, but at least we are still together.... Shockedsw or maybe not .... Crying or Very sadis it bad if my kid comes out lookin like freddy deeb?

....So true. It's at least 7 other men. Haha but seriously, people you love shouldn't hold you back. If there is enough between a couple, then poker shouldn't make it all fall apart as the sole reason. The hours and such don't necessarily make it easy, but to end because of that is pretty weak.

[Wingmaster05 0]

I'm with Neal on this one. If the love of your life doesnt want you to play poker for a living, shit, drop it. Playing poker 8 hours a day, living in front of a computer, for what, if your good, you make 40K a year. Use your education and get into the real world, and keep poker as a hobby. Now if she thinks you shouldnt play poker at all, let her know that poker profits will be extra spending cash. If she still dissents, tell her if you dont make money the first year of playing, you will quit. If you can't make money over a year, maybe you should only play once a month. I agree iveyfan, no one should tell them that they can't enjoy their favorite pastime, unless it seriously comprises their values (if "watching porn" is your idea of a hobby...yea).

[Men the Hellmuth 0]

Well first off i would like to thank everyone for their response's, i appreciate everyone telling me to keep my head up, im trying...... shes a great girl and we have talked before about poker and its skill level and all of that trust me.... weve talked about it a million times.... if there was a poker game in the daytime, trust me i would play, but locally, all the games start around 7-9 EST.... so that prob would never go away... i make my money from poker, its the way i pay the bills since this past Feb.... i told her i would find a more "steady" job but she said it was too late... im going to hope things kinda of work themselves out and if they dont..... well... that sucks..... but i know eventually if things happen and we go our seperate ways, ill get over it eventually...funny thing is i just left the house for a couple of hours to try to forget about this horrible subject and went to a poker game ( didnt play, just drank a little ) and found out a good friend of mine also just broke up with his girlfriend today and they have been together for 13 years...... so i guess theres something in the water in NY today... sw...

[radar37 0]

you know what cheers me up. rolled up aces. check raising stupid tourists.... sorry man gl with everthing.

[mattster 0]

You'll get through it bro. I lost a girlfriend not to long ago as well for the same reason...for some reason girls dont like it when i play online poker eight hours a day.Anyways, it will heal with time...just keep putting one foot in front of the other and you will stumble into another relationship in no timeGood luck.

Did you look behind the couch? That's where I look when I lose things. Sorry, for some reason I love that joke.Unfortunately, a lady I knew that had a one year old always on her arm told me she lost the baby (she always called her kid the baby) and I made that joke knowing the kid was in the car. Turns out she was pregnant and thought I knew and she had a miscarriage. I felt silly for a minute but now I have that story to tell. moral: everything has a silver lining.

ouch. thats even worse than calling someone pregnant when they're just fat.

I did that. Yesterday. Just horrible.

[bdc30 0]

bad.beat.forum.Sorry man, just kidding.Sucks to hear it.All the best

[teneight 1]

best advice I can give you:D/L the paris hilton porn video and rub one off every 3 hrs while playing poker. ...it works wonders for meteneight

[acesfullmike 0]

Ok, I'll say it. In the poker game of life, women are the rake. They are the fucking rake. Nah, sorry to hear it man. my gf is always on my ass about playing until I told her I couldnt afford to take her out to those expensive restaurants because i didnt clear that last bonuse.

[potpumper43 0]

Three rules I learned as a young boy from my grandfather. They always apply.You get nothin for nothin.Don't shit where you eat.Nobody Cares.quote]Ron your grandfather was a wise man.

[SopotBoy 0]

If it makes you feel any better my wife left me for another guy. Trust me that sucks the worst of all

[Canada 0]

Hey Donk! Poker is a pastime/hobby/job...To lose a friend, let alone a long time girlfriend to it is just a little daft.I am flaming you because this is important.Look back at every great time you've had in your life. What's the common theme?You shared it with someone important to you, whether it was a friend, girlfriend or family member.No matter what you do, how much money you earn, how big your house is or how successful you are, the only true enjoyment you get out of life comes from the people you share it with.There are 2 outcomes here:1) It wasn't meant to be and poker was the excuse. If it wasn't poker it would've been something else.2) You are going to look back in 6 months and say to yourself 'I lost her because of poker! What kind of idiot am I?Work out which one it is.

[CrazyHorse76 0]

On a related note, if someone wants to shoot pool against you, the uglier they are, and the worse their teeth look, the better thay are. 100% fact.

[HoosierAlum 0]

If it makes you feel any better my wife left me for another guy. Trust me that sucks the worst of all

Thats a bad beat. Of the runner runner perfect perfect variety.

[SopotBoy 0]

If it makes you feel any better my wife left me for another guy. Trust me that sucks the worst of all

Thats a bad beat. Of the runner runner perfect perfect variety.

Yea tell me about it

[CodyHartman 0]

I havent read every post in this thread, but I dont see how something can be worked out. Im a married man of over 4.5 yrs and we've been together for 9 yrs. If there is one piece of advice I can give is to TALK out all problems.Not to get to faggy here (prolly too late) but you need to make a compromise with her. Work out a schedule for your poker playing that both of you can agree to. With online poker this is too easy, I know you play live primarily, but maybe a mix of the two will be the best way to work this out.Poker shouldn't end a relationship UNLESS one of you is NOT willing to compromise.Good Luck man, if ya really care about her, like it sounds you do, give her a day or two to think about stuff and then work it out.

[Governator 54]

I'm reminded of Rounders - You can't just quit poker.If she were to come back, perhaps trying to play around her hours would be the most acceptable thing to offer.

[Royal_Tour 0]

Hey Donk!  Poker is a pastime/hobby/job...To lose a friend, let alone a long time girlfriend to it is just a little daft.I am flaming you because this is important.Look back at every great time you've had in your life.  What's the common theme?You shared it with someone important to you, whether it was a friend, girlfriend or family member.No matter what you do, how much money you earn, how big your house is or how successful you are, the only true enjoyment you get out of life comes from the people you share it with.There are 2 outcomes here:1) It wasn't meant to be and poker was the excuse.  If it wasn't poker it would've been something else.2) You are going to look back in 6 months and say to yourself  'I lost her because of poker!  What kind of idiot am I?Work out which one it is.

You're the Donk.. You stupid call stationPoker, or going to the mall to buy shoes. If you did the second choice every night, i'm sure she wouldnt mind.Its a simple case of "her problem with it". If i had to chose between a girl or poker, well i chose neither, i chose the girl who doesnt give a rats ass what i do with my life as long as she is part of it

[dreamcaster 0]

How do you stop the wife/girlfriend from complaining about poker?Get them hooked on it too. All it takes is some chip dumping to them during your first friendly home game she is playing in. She'll find it fun (since she is winning) and it goes from there."Minutes to learn, lifetime to master."I need to get a second computer as the wife and I have to take turns playing now.p.s. Stop playing with the rent money and ease her worries. Should be a hobby until you build your bankroll.

[Ron_Mexico 4,219]

If it makes you feel any better my wife left me for another guy. Trust me that sucks the worst of all

Yeah, but her and I are doing well. She says hello btw.

[sublime 0]

Life sucks sometimes.  It isn't cut out for some people.  Poker is a lonely game.  Why do you think ugly people excell at it?Three rules I learned as a young boy from my grandfather.  They always apply.You get nothin for nothin.Don't shit where you eat.Nobody Cares.Remember those and you'll figure it all out.

My grandfather always said:1. If you have a hard-on, use it.2. If you have to pee, go.3. Never trust a fart.I now use these three rules as the catalyst of my life.~sublime