Men the Hellmuth 0 Posted September 9, 2005 Share Posted September 9, 2005 Well.... im a little depressed as i write this.... my girlfriend of 4 years is ending things with me because she cant take the poker lifestyle anymore..... now those of you in the know... you know what the poker lifestyle is.... coming home late most nights.....smelling like smokepossibly losing a rent payment or 2 in one nightwaking up at 4pm as she walks in from a long day of work...hearing all the war stories for the previous night...not spending as much time with her as she would like... and ETC.....now before people start flaming away.... i am a very good poker player, i play almost all live, no internet poker.... theres always a game where i live and if not then you can find me in atlantic city or Foxwoods playing.... so shes not leaving me because im some degenerate gambler, shes pretty much leaving for all of the other reasons i mentioned before. now before people start baging on her, she met me and dated me for 2 years before i started playing poker seriously, she never really liked poker and only really tollerated it because i almost always came home with more then when i left.... and that usually meant that i was always paying for the dinner and movies the next night but anyway.... im just kinda of depressed and just thought i would see what people had to say and if anyone had to go thru what im going thru right now.... thanks guys.... Link to post Share on other sites
Dixie Wrecked 0 Posted September 9, 2005 Share Posted September 9, 2005 :dance: Link to post Share on other sites
PAYforUSC 0 Posted September 9, 2005 Share Posted September 9, 2005 the best thing that ever happened to you...now go light up the green felt and get yourself the finest $1,000 hooker AC has to offer!.......on a serious note, not much you can do about this one. Link to post Share on other sites
Ron_Mexico 4,219 Posted September 9, 2005 Share Posted September 9, 2005 Life sucks sometimes. It isn't cut out for some people. Poker is a lonely game. Why do you think ugly people excell at it?Three rules I learned as a young boy from my grandfather. They always apply.You get nothin for nothin.Don't shit where you eat.Nobody Cares.Remember those and you'll figure it all out. Link to post Share on other sites
Swift_Psycho 1 Posted September 9, 2005 Share Posted September 9, 2005 Tough situation to be in man. My sympathies. Link to post Share on other sites
missIdaho 1 Posted September 9, 2005 Share Posted September 9, 2005 You have to ask yourself, what is more important to you? Her or Poker?If your answer is Poker than letting her go is the right decision. Hang in there. Believe it or not, there are women out there that don't mind the poker lifestyle. Link to post Share on other sites
lboarts 0 Posted September 9, 2005 Share Posted September 9, 2005 Sorry to hear that, Men. It's unfortunate, but not uncommon. Many people have been through or are going through what you are right now, including me. Keep your chin up and keep telling yourself this too shall pass. Best of luck. Link to post Share on other sites
93transam 0 Posted September 9, 2005 Share Posted September 9, 2005 That does suck, man. Good luck at the tables at least :? Might want to take a break for a while, it's never good to play with things like this hanging over your head. Link to post Share on other sites
lboarts 0 Posted September 9, 2005 Share Posted September 9, 2005 That does suck, man. Good luck at the tables at least :? Might want to take a break for a while, it's never good to play with things like this hanging over your head.When my fiancee and I seperated over this last year (we since got back together, she's a poker junkie too), I responded by playing more poker, it took my mind off my woes.I'm not saying your advice isn't good, it probably is for most, just relaying my experience. Link to post Share on other sites
Socko669 0 Posted September 9, 2005 Share Posted September 9, 2005 You'll get through it bro. I lost a girlfriend not to long ago as well for the same reason...for some reason girls dont like it when i play online poker eight hours a day.Anyways, it will heal with time...just keep putting one foot in front of the other and you will stumble into another relationship in no timeGood luck. Link to post Share on other sites
BeanGW 0 Posted September 9, 2005 Share Posted September 9, 2005 If you truly love her, let her go.If she truly loves you, she'll be back. Link to post Share on other sites
93transam 0 Posted September 9, 2005 Share Posted September 9, 2005 That does suck, man. Good luck at the tables at least :? Might want to take a break for a while, it's never good to play with things like this hanging over your head.When my fiancee and I seperated over this last year (we since got back together, she's a poker junkie too), I responded by playing more poker, it took my mind off my woes.I'm not saying your advice isn't good, it probably is for most, just relaying my experience.Yeah, whatever works for you. I've just found and I think most people play a lot worse obviously when shit goes wrong.Then again it's always a good outlet to release that frustration. Link to post Share on other sites
Ron_Mexico 4,219 Posted September 9, 2005 Share Posted September 9, 2005 You'll get through it bro. I lost a girlfriend not to long ago as well for the same reason...for some reason girls dont like it when i play online poker eight hours a day.Anyways, it will heal with time...just keep putting one foot in front of the other and you will stumble into another relationship in no timeGood luck.Did you look behind the couch? That's where I look when I lose things. Sorry, for some reason I love that joke.Unfortunately, a lady I knew that had a one year old always on her arm told me she lost the baby (she always called her kid the baby) and I made that joke knowing the kid was in the car. Turns out she was pregnant and thought I knew and she had a miscarriage. I felt silly for a minute but now I have that story to tell. moral: everything has a silver lining. Link to post Share on other sites
93transam 0 Posted September 9, 2005 Share Posted September 9, 2005 You'll get through it bro. I lost a girlfriend not to long ago as well for the same reason...for some reason girls dont like it when i play online poker eight hours a day.Anyways, it will heal with time...just keep putting one foot in front of the other and you will stumble into another relationship in no timeGood luck.Did you look behind the couch? That's where I look when I lose things. Sorry, for some reason I love that joke.Unfortunately, a lady I knew that had a one year old always on her arm told me she lost the baby (she always called her kid the baby) and I made that joke knowing the kid was in the car. Turns out she was pregnant and thought I knew and she had a miscarriage. I felt silly for a minute but now I have that story to tell. moral: everything has a silver lining.ouch. thats even worse than calling someone pregnant when they're just fat. Link to post Share on other sites
Men the Hellmuth 0 Posted September 9, 2005 Author Share Posted September 9, 2005 If you truly love her, let her go.If she truly loves you, she'll be back.thats what im hoping... shes a good girl....not to sound cheesy, but i know DN went thru the same thing with Lori ( probably not the same context but.... ) so lets hope it works the same way... Link to post Share on other sites
SOWhatKid 0 Posted September 9, 2005 Share Posted September 9, 2005 Well.... im a little depressed as i write this.... my girlfriend of 4 years is ending things with me because she cant take the poker lifestyle anymore..... now those of you in the know... you know what the poker lifestyle is.... coming home late most nights.....smelling like smokepossibly losing a rent payment or 2 in one nightwaking up at 4pm as she walks in from a long day of work...hearing all the war stories for the previous night...not spending as much time with her as she would like... and ETC.....now before people start flaming away.... i am a very good poker player, i play almost all live, no internet poker.... theres always a game where i live and if not then you can find me in atlantic city or Foxwoods playing.... so shes not leaving me because im some degenerate gambler, shes pretty much leaving for all of the other reasons i mentioned before. now before people start baging on her, she met me and dated me for 2 years before i started playing poker seriously, she never really liked poker and only really tollerated it because i almost always came home with more then when i left.... and that usually meant that i was always paying for the dinner and movies the next night but anyway.... im just kinda of depressed and just thought i would see what people had to say and if anyone had to go thru what im going thru right now.... thanks guys.... If you love her I suggest quiting the poker lifestyle. A good woman is hard to find! IMO Link to post Share on other sites
BrantC 0 Posted September 9, 2005 Share Posted September 9, 2005 Tough man, but as someone else said if she truly loves you, she will come back. I took a little hiatus for my wife and our son because she just wasn't use to the poker lifestyle. But the best thing for me was getting her involved in the game and the way I play and now she doesn't mind if i go play every once in a while. Actually she prefers it because we were able to put a down payment on a house b/c of most of my winnings in tournaments, cash games, etc. You just gotta find the right one for ya ya know. She's out there, probably sitting in the 9 seat at the Taj. Anyways, good luck bro and I hope everything works out for you. Take care my friend Link to post Share on other sites
lboarts 0 Posted September 9, 2005 Share Posted September 9, 2005 You'll get through it bro. I lost a girlfriend not to long ago as well for the same reason...for some reason girls dont like it when i play online poker eight hours a day.Anyways, it will heal with time...just keep putting one foot in front of the other and you will stumble into another relationship in no timeGood luck.Did you look behind the couch? That's where I look when I lose things. Sorry, for some reason I love that joke.Unfortunately, a lady I knew that had a one year old always on her arm told me she lost the baby (she always called her kid the baby) and I made that joke knowing the kid was in the car. Turns out she was pregnant and thought I knew and she had a miscarriage. I felt silly for a minute but now I have that story to tell. moral: everything has a silver lining.What's the silver lining? That you stuck your foot in your mouth and found out it tasted good? Link to post Share on other sites
mkeller3086 0 Posted September 9, 2005 Share Posted September 9, 2005 first off, sorry to hear about the bad newsmy question to you is, how much do you really love this girl? christ you guys were together for four yearswould you ever give it up for her?i have a real serious girlfriend and i have asked myself the same question i think i would give it up in a heartbeat for this girl and i'm not just some weekend player, i probably play atleast 8K hands a week online and derive a fair amount of money from iti know i will now be disowned from this forum but heck, it was worth a shotgood luck with whatever you decide to do and i hope things work out for you Link to post Share on other sites
DDiabolical 0 Posted September 9, 2005 Share Posted September 9, 2005 You have to ask yourself, what is more important to you? Her or Poker?If your answer is Poker than letting her go is the right decision. I don't think it's a matter of which is more important to you, but that if she can't handle it then she isn't right for you.I don't believe in changing who you are for someone else.4 years.. sorry man. Link to post Share on other sites
guinevar 0 Posted September 9, 2005 Share Posted September 9, 2005 I would give up poker for my girl in a heartbeat. There is more to life than poker. Link to post Share on other sites
Jelly-Filled Ace 1 Posted September 9, 2005 Share Posted September 9, 2005 No shame in getting your laundry done by the pound and your chicks by the hour. Link to post Share on other sites
HoosierAlum 0 Posted September 9, 2005 Share Posted September 9, 2005 You know what cheers me up when Im feeling s.hitty? Rolled up aces over kings. Check-raising stupid tourists and taking huge pots off of them. Stacking towers of checks so high you can't see over them. Playing high limit hold 'em at the (insert local casino here), where the sand turns to gold.Seriously though, sorry to hear this. I understand how hard it can be, considering my girlfriend doesn't necessarily like/respect the poker lifestyle either. Just keep your head up and take a break from the tables. Playing depressed and/or angry is the worst way to play. Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
minorityreport 0 Posted September 9, 2005 Share Posted September 9, 2005 I've heard of far worse than this. This to shall pass. Seems like you didn't even hesitate when deliberating nor do you have second thoughts -- which tells me that you made the right decision. If you hesitated at all, you don't have what it takes to survive in the poker life--stick to a normal 9-5 and hang on to the four year relationship-- but it sounds like you know what you want. More power to you brotha, and much success in your endeavors. Link to post Share on other sites
Royal_Tour 0 Posted September 9, 2005 Share Posted September 9, 2005 I would give up poker for my girl in a heartbeat. There is more to life than poker.There is more to a relationship then giving up your passions.To the OP. What about playing during the day?. what about talking to her about everything but poker?I guess its a little too late. But listen to Ron Mexico,never shit where you eat, nothing is ever for nothing, only you can get you places you want to be, if something holds you back, then step to the side and start forward again.Put one foot in front of the other, and soon you'll be walkin out there door."rudolph the red nosed reindeer" Link to post Share on other sites
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