cujo33 0 Posted October 22, 2008 Share Posted October 22, 2008 Ok here is the situation, and you tell me if I have the right to be pissed off?About a year ago I lived in my own house with 2 other roomates. And I wanted a dog, a pitbull to be exact. I did all the research and made sure they were allowed in my area, which they were. The trim around our basement door was chewed up so you could tell the person who lived there before had a dog as well, and there was nothing in our lease agreement that I remember about having pets. So I figured they were ok. That was a big mistake I know, I should have checked in with my realtor but I messed up there.So anyway I end up getting a puppy pitbull which I paid $300 for from a breeder. About 3 weeks after me having my dog my realtor found out when she did an unexpected house inspection. She said I couldn't have the dog and I needed to figure something out. Well I had a friend who has 4 pitbulls of his own so I asked him if he could watch my dog. He said "Yeah sure that is not a problem." I told him if he ever needs foot to contact me and i'll buy him food and drop it off at his house, he then said "Naw don't worry about it, he will just eat when the others eat." So everything was cool.I Eventually moved out of my house because my 2 roomates were not paying there part of the rent, and I moved in with my friend who had my dog for about 6 months. As I was living there my friends mom was going to the store and I was about to get in the car with her. She asked, "What are you doing?" I said, "I'm going with you because my dog is out of food and i'm going to buy him some more." She then said, "No No don't worry about it and go back in the house." I probably asked her 4 to 5 more times if she was sure and she insisted that I go back in the house. OK. After those 6 months I moved in with my grandparents because my friend was going to get a house with his girlfriend. Which they have yet to do. And my grandparents didn't want my dog to be in the house because my grandpa doesn't like pitbulls because what he has saw on TV.So again I ask my friend if he can continue to watch my dog. He says, "Thats fine he has always been welcome here, not a big deal." I told him I really appreciated him helping me out. Well about 2 weeks ago I met my friend at work and told him I needed to pick my dog up sometime this month to get his 1 year shots updated. Which he said "Ok Cool" Well just tonight when I told him I was going to pick him up to get his shots tomorrow he says don't worry about it. I tell him its my dog and I need to update his shots and i'm not going to argue about with him. Also everytime I tried to see my dog my friend always acted like it was a big deal and a chore. And also he hasn't actually been watching my dog, he pretty much pushed him onto his mom, so my dog eats, and sleeps in my friends moms room (Sorry didn't mention that earlier.) My friend later says "Thats my moms dog, she already updated his shots" I told him no thats my dog and as soon as I get my own place i'm going to come and pick him up. My friend says, "NO your not, your not the owner, he has been with my mom the majority of his life, and you haven't shown any responsibility for him." He was trying to play the you never buy him food and what not. I told him I offered to get him food as stated above. My friend also said the only way I would get my dog back was through a court battle. I personally think this is a bunch of BS. I paid for my dog, he is registered in my name. You can't agree to WATCH someone's dog then all of a sudden decide to keep him. Ive just been really steaming over this situation, and i'm just going over my options at this point, if any. We are no longer friends because of this incident, our friendship wasn't that strong to begin with anyway i guess, but not mad over the lost friendship mad at the situation.Sorry so long. Thanks for reading. Link to post Share on other sites
grocery_mony 9 Posted October 22, 2008 Share Posted October 22, 2008 Sorry I am with your friend with this one. Link to post Share on other sites
chrozzo 19 Posted October 22, 2008 Share Posted October 22, 2008 if your friend an his mom spent more time with "your" dog...the it is THEIR dogsorry Link to post Share on other sites
speedz99 145 Posted October 22, 2008 Share Posted October 22, 2008 He and his mother handled the situation very poorly, but they are more right than you in this situation. If you have someone take care of an animal for such a long period of time and have pretty much nothing to do with it other than offering to buy some food, you've essentially given it up to them. It's not right for you to try and take it back after it has already bonded to that family. Link to post Share on other sites
runthemover 40 Posted October 22, 2008 Share Posted October 22, 2008 it might be "their" dog but it's his in name and he spent the money to buy it. So either he owes you $300 or after you take them to court and win it back you pay them for food expenses etcthough probably better just to try and get your $ back for it Link to post Share on other sites
LadyGrey 8 Posted October 22, 2008 Share Posted October 22, 2008 Yeah, I mean you haven't said explicitly how often you visited the dog, how much time you spent with him each visit etc, but it doesn't seem fair of you to leave the dog with someone else for such a long time and expect them to just give him up. Having looked after him for months and months they have probably formed more of an emotional bond with him than you have. It doesn't seem like you are in any hurry to move somewhere that would allow him to live with you - you even left your original residence and still didn't get the dog back when you moved into a new place.I understand why you are mad about it, and I think you should perhaps ask them for some money in return for transferring ownership to them - afterall, you did pay a lot of money to get him in the first place. You seem to like the dog, yet you were irresponsible about getting him in the first place, and once he was living at the friend's house you became kind of a 'deadbeat dad' to him, so I think it's best for both you and the dog if you relinquish ownership. Then when you do get a place where you can legally own a dog you can buy another dog and look after him full time. Link to post Share on other sites
speedz99 145 Posted October 22, 2008 Share Posted October 22, 2008 I suppose they do owe you $300. Link to post Share on other sites
chrozzo 19 Posted October 22, 2008 Share Posted October 22, 2008 Yeah, I mean you haven't said explicitly how often you visited the dog, how much time you spent with him each visit etc, but it doesn't seem fair of you to leave the dog with someone else for such a long time and expect them to just give him up. Having looked after him for months and months they have probably formed more of an emotional bond with him than you have. It doesn't seem like you are in any hurry to move somewhere that would allow him to live with you - you even left your original residence and still didn't get the dog back when you moved into a new place.I understand why you are mad about it, and I think you should perhaps ask them for some money in return for transferring ownership to them - afterall, you did pay a lot of money to get him in the first place. You seem to like the dog, yet you were irresponsible about getting him in the first place, and once he was living at the friend's house you became kind of a 'deadbeat dad' to him, so I think it's best for both you and the dog if you relinquish ownership. Then when you do get a place where you can legally own a dog you can buy another dog and look after him full time.its a Pitbull for gods sake!.an ugly...mangled pitbull!..ugly...wrinkled pitbull...why not kill it and save us all the anguish? Link to post Share on other sites
outsider13 0 Posted October 22, 2008 Share Posted October 22, 2008 I suppose they do owe you $300.^^And ffs, why a pitbull? They are awful. Haven't you seen them on TV? Link to post Share on other sites
hank213 1,824 Posted October 22, 2008 Share Posted October 22, 2008 The mom owes you a "thank you" card and that's pretty much it. Link to post Share on other sites
LadyGrey 8 Posted October 22, 2008 Share Posted October 22, 2008 its a Pitbull for gods sake!.an ugly...mangled pitbull!..ugly...wrinkled pitbull...why not kill it and save us all the anguish?Seriously... forget the dog, get a cat. Cats are ridiculously awesome. Link to post Share on other sites
mase_gotsem 0 Posted October 22, 2008 Share Posted October 22, 2008 its a Pitbull for gods sake!.an ugly...mangled pitbull!..ugly...wrinkled pitbull...why not kill it and save us all the anguish?i hope your joking .. if not i hope the next shipment of beer you drink is spoiled and flat !!! AND YOU GET THE RUNS FROM IT !!op id suggest letting them keep it the dog probably is attached to them as well and you seem kinda unsettled.ask them to give you 300 for it and get another dog when you settle down. and get it from a rescue shelter please . Link to post Share on other sites
LadyGrey 8 Posted October 22, 2008 Share Posted October 22, 2008 and get it from a rescue shelter please .This instantly made me think "Oh god, wait til vonteego sees this thread".... Link to post Share on other sites
speedz99 145 Posted October 22, 2008 Share Posted October 22, 2008 and get it from a rescue shelter please .Seriously. Link to post Share on other sites
mase_gotsem 0 Posted October 22, 2008 Share Posted October 22, 2008 ^^And ffs, why a pitbull? They are awful. Haven't you seen them on TV?dont be ignorant iv owned 2 pitbulls and they were awsome and loyal never attacked anyone or anythingQUOTE (mase_gotsem @ Wednesday, October 22nd, 2008, 12:46 AM) and get it from a rescue shelter please .This instantly made me think "Oh god, wait til vonteego sees this thread".... lol qft but its more true for pitbulls then anyother dog. imo Link to post Share on other sites
BigDMcGee 3,364 Posted October 22, 2008 Share Posted October 22, 2008 Waist of a good fightin' dog if you ask me Link to post Share on other sites
cujo33 0 Posted October 22, 2008 Author Share Posted October 22, 2008 I visited him as much as I could with my schedule and my friends schedule, we both have jobs.And like I said I lived with my friend for 6 months with my dog. He hasn't really formed a bond with anyone but my friends mom. He is always in her room exept for when he goes to the bathroom, thats not a kind of dog that needs to be couped up all the time, thats why I was upset that my friend pushed him onto his mom when I asked him to watch him. When my friend would take his dogs to the park to play when I was at work I asked if he took mine and he would always say no. So I would always take him for walks and exercise on my days off and stuff, because its not fair for the other dogs to go out and not him. I have heard input from other friends and they have said the same as the other replies, either I keep my dog and I pay for the food expenses to his mom, or they give me the $300. I take full responsibility for being irresponsible about not asking my realor of they allow pets, I just assumed and that was a mistake on my part.And pitbulls are not ugly, they are gorgeous dogs who are just big lap dogs. People think there so mean when there really just big babies. Link to post Share on other sites
Suited_Up 2 Posted October 22, 2008 Share Posted October 22, 2008 Landlord, not realtor. Link to post Share on other sites
outsider13 0 Posted October 22, 2008 Share Posted October 22, 2008 dont be ignorant iv owned 2 pitbulls and they were awsome and loyal never attacked anyone or anythingFWIW, I was making a funny....And my grandparents didn't want my dog to be in the house because my grandpa doesn't like pitbulls because what he has saw on TV.You're in Winnipeg right? Aren't they illegal here? Link to post Share on other sites
mase_gotsem 0 Posted October 22, 2008 Share Posted October 22, 2008 Kick your friends ass stop being a pussy then .edit-yea there illegal here mine were taken away by the police few years back and given to a country shelter. there are alot of people here that still have them they just say there mixed breeds when they register. and they cant take them away unless they can prove other wisealso i kinda thought u were kidding Link to post Share on other sites
ajs510 122 Posted October 22, 2008 Share Posted October 22, 2008 I have heard input from other friends and they have said the same as the other replies, either I keep my dog and I pay for the food expenses to his mom, or they give me the $300. I take full responsibility for being irresponsible about not asking my realor of they allow pets, I just assumed and that was a mistake on my part.If the dog is licensed in your name and you don't care anything about the friendship anymore (I wouldn't) then threaten to call the police and do it if they don't surrender the dog or properly reimburse you for him. A purchase receipt will also go a long way towards proving ownership. I can kinda see the side that thinks the friend and his mom should keep the dog because it's already bonded with them, but I know from experience that dogs never forget their first owner or that bond. I adopted a dog from a former roommate after he moved into an apartment that wouldn't allow pets, and every time he came over for poker the dog would go apeshit over getting to see him. There should have been a firm agreement upfront that you would pay X amount per month for them to board the dog for you, without that in place or proof that you violated it, they're guilty of theft in my opinion. Police or small claims court (or both) FTW. Link to post Share on other sites
JubilantLankyLad 1,959 Posted October 22, 2008 Share Posted October 22, 2008 Seriously... forget the dog, get a cat. Cats are ridiculously awesome. Link to post Share on other sites
rivergirl 2 Posted October 22, 2008 Share Posted October 22, 2008 Dog ownership is really alot like raising a child. If you don't have enough time or resources to devote to the animal its really better that you don't have one. With that being said, i don't like the way your "friend" has handled this situation but the puppy has bonded with these people and it's probably better that you leave him with them and ask them for some sort of compensation for the cost. If you do go get another dog, please make sure of a few things first:-you live somewhere that the dog is allowed to stay, also ensure that where you are the dog has more than adequate room for exercise-you have the means to take care of it, both financially and emotionally. Dogs are really like people, they not only need food, but they require lots of attention and devotion. It takes alot to train them and they need constant love and support.-make sure you have enough "time" for them, leaving your dog at home alone all the time isn't really fair to the animal especially if they have to hold their "duties" in all the time. Try to make sure you have a plan with a neighbour or friend who can come over and visit just to let them out especially if you work long hours or are gone for extended periods of time.And please get your next animal from a rescue shelter. These places are packed with great animals who need and deserve loving caring homes Link to post Share on other sites
Sal Paradise 57 Posted October 22, 2008 Share Posted October 22, 2008 why do people keep saying to get dogs from a rescue shelter? screw that. those dogs have already been rejected by at least one person, so why the hell would I want a loser like that? no way I'd ever get an unpopular dog. Link to post Share on other sites
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