Ex_Matt 0 Posted July 25, 2008 Share Posted July 25, 2008 I'm sure everyone knows someone like this. The type of person who you don't really care for but they'll act like you guys are buddies and won't leave you alone.There was a seinfeld episode about this but they never really solved the problem. So how would you guys get rid of an unwanted "friend" without causing any real trouble? Link to post Share on other sites
outsider13 0 Posted July 25, 2008 Share Posted July 25, 2008 3 User(s) are reading this topic (0 Guests and 1 Anonymous Users)2 Members: outsider13, Pot Odds RACI think I know where this is going. Link to post Share on other sites
ajs510 122 Posted July 25, 2008 Share Posted July 25, 2008 I'm sure everyone knows someone like this. The type of person who you don't really care for but they'll act like you guys are buddies and won't leave you alone.There was a seinfeld episode about this but they never really solved the problem. So how would you guys get rid of an unwanted "friend" without causing any real trouble?Got $500? Link to post Share on other sites
showstopper24 0 Posted July 25, 2008 Share Posted July 25, 2008 I'm sure everyone knows someone like this. The type of person who you don't really care for but they'll act like you guys are buddies and won't leave you alone.There was a seinfeld episode about this but they never really solved the problem. So how would you guys get rid of an unwanted "friend" without causing any real trouble?Don't talk to him. I recently dealt with this. I had a friend that I wanted to kill whenever he was around, so when he called, I didn't answer but later texted him and said I couldn't talk. After a couple of weeks of this, he stopped calling and I haven't seen him much and I am much happier. Link to post Share on other sites
Pot Odds RAC 23 Posted July 25, 2008 Share Posted July 25, 2008 Don't be a passive-aggressive wimp. Just say "no" if he asks and you don't feel like hanging with him. Don't make excuses or play little games. Don't be all chummy with him to his face and then say: "I hate that guy" when he isn't around. That reflects poorly on your own character - and your other "real" friends will take note. Just be direct. You don't have to be rude nor offensive. Just follow the golden rule. He'll drift away. Link to post Share on other sites
Pot Odds RAC 23 Posted July 25, 2008 Share Posted July 25, 2008 3 User(s) are reading this topic (0 Guests and 1 Anonymous Users)2 Members: outsider13, Pot Odds RACI think I know where this is going....and tell him you carry a concealed weapon. Link to post Share on other sites
mtdesmoines 3 Posted July 25, 2008 Share Posted July 25, 2008 I'm sure everyone knows someone like this. The type of person who you don't really care for but they'll act like you guys are buddies and won't leave you alone.There was a seinfeld episode about this but they never really solved the problem. So how would you guys get rid of an unwanted "friend" without causing any real trouble?... predicting big things for this thread. Link to post Share on other sites
Sal Paradise 57 Posted July 25, 2008 Share Posted July 25, 2008 Don't talk to him. I recently dealt with this. I had a friend that I wanted to kill whenever he was around, so when he called, I didn't answer but later texted him and said I couldn't talk. After a couple of weeks of this, he stopped calling and I haven't seen him much and I am much happier.showstopper had a friend that annoyed him. ok. Link to post Share on other sites
Ex_Matt 0 Posted July 25, 2008 Author Share Posted July 25, 2008 Don't be a passive-aggressive wimp. Just say "no" if he asks and you don't feel like hanging with him. Don't make excuses or play little games. Don't be all chummy with him to his face and then say: "I hate that guy" when he isn't around. That reflects poorly on your own character - and your other "real" friends will take note. Just be direct. You don't have to be rude nor offensive. Just follow the golden rule. He'll drift away.I tried the rude approach before and it didn't work. Lately I've been practicing avoidance like you said, not answering calls or IM's. Cept I havent even been returning them with a text or phonecall. For about 3 weeks now and he still hasn't gotten the picture. Link to post Share on other sites
Pot Odds RAC 23 Posted July 25, 2008 Share Posted July 25, 2008 I tried the rude approach before and it didn't work. Lately I've been practicing avoidance like you said, not answering calls or IM's. Cept I havent even been returning them with a text or phonecall. For about 3 weeks now and he still hasn't gotten the picture.That is exactly the opposite of what I am saying. That is passive and just avoiding the situation. Be an adult and treat him like an adult. Don't avoid a situation just because it is uncomfortable.Don't avoid giving him the feedback or answer he doesn't want to hear just because it makes you uncomfortable. Link to post Share on other sites
wsox8 10 Posted July 25, 2008 Share Posted July 25, 2008 Without out trouble or without a fight? Kill 'em. Link to post Share on other sites
wsox8 10 Posted July 25, 2008 Share Posted July 25, 2008 That is exactly the opposite of what I am saying. That is passive and just avoiding the situation. Be an adult and treat him like an adult. Don't avoid a situation just because it is uncomfortable.Don't avoid giving him the feedback or answer he doesn't want to hear just because it makes you uncomfortable.QFT, Don't be a little wuss and avoid him. I know it might be hard but just tell him how you feel. Don't leave him hanging by avoiding him. It just digs you into a bigger hole. Link to post Share on other sites
Ex_Matt 0 Posted July 25, 2008 Author Share Posted July 25, 2008 QFT, Don't be a little wuss and avoid him. I know it might be hard but just tell him how you feel. Don't leave him hanging by avoiding him. It just digs you into a bigger hole.True. I'll be moving at the end of august so avoidance won't be that difficult. I tried being upfront before and eventually ran into him and some other people at a mutual friends house one time and randomly started hanging out with them again. The problem isn't the group of friends just one person. So I tried being up front one time and it didn't really work out as I would of hoped. Link to post Share on other sites
Lolli 0 Posted July 25, 2008 Share Posted July 25, 2008 Tell him youre gay and have started developing feelings for him.He wont bother you again. Unless... Link to post Share on other sites
magnus72 0 Posted July 25, 2008 Share Posted July 25, 2008 Just let it build up a little bit more inside of you then get drunk and tell him off. Thats how I solve all my problems. Link to post Share on other sites
fryer98 30 Posted July 25, 2008 Share Posted July 25, 2008 showstopper had a friend that annoyed him. ok.I'm with ya here... Link to post Share on other sites
Dawson Leery 12 Posted July 25, 2008 Share Posted July 25, 2008 Tell him you have AIDS. No one wants to hang out with the kid with AIDS. Link to post Share on other sites
LongLiveYorke 38 Posted July 25, 2008 Share Posted July 25, 2008 I say we get Cobalt to blaze him for you. He must be pretty experienced at that by now. Link to post Share on other sites
CBass1724 1 Posted July 25, 2008 Share Posted July 25, 2008 I'm sure everyone knows someone like this. The type of person who you don't really care for but they'll act like you guys are buddies and won't leave you alone.There was a seinfeld episode about this but they never really solved the problem. So how would you guys get rid of an unwanted "friend" without causing any real trouble?Nicely disguised brag post about having a friend.I raise... Link to post Share on other sites
wsox8 10 Posted July 25, 2008 Share Posted July 25, 2008 True. I'll be moving at the end of august so avoidance won't be that difficult. I tried being upfront before and eventually ran into him and some other people at a mutual friends house one time and randomly started hanging out with them again. The problem isn't the group of friends just one person. So I tried being up front one time and it didn't really work out as I would of hoped.What is wrong with the guy? Does he have a missing tooth or an annoying facial scar, or just has an attitude problem? Link to post Share on other sites
CBass1724 1 Posted July 25, 2008 Share Posted July 25, 2008 What is wrong with the guy? Does he have a missing tooth or an annoying facial scar, or just has an attitude problem?This has to be one of those instances where he is the villain in this hand. Link to post Share on other sites
Lolli 0 Posted July 25, 2008 Share Posted July 25, 2008 Nicely disguised brag post about having a friend.I raise... Link to post Share on other sites
Ex_Matt 0 Posted July 25, 2008 Author Share Posted July 25, 2008 Nicely disguised brag post about having a friend.I raise...*Ex_Matt has requested time*What is wrong with the guy? Does he have a missing tooth or an annoying facial scar, or just has an attitude problem?Just a bunch of minor things that may not seem like a big deal but after awhile they've become quite annoying.-He always thinks his ideas are the best and always tries to persuade people into doing the things he wants to do.-If he doesn't get his way he'll try to make others feel bad about it.-If he's losing at something he'll always have an excuse as to why he lost.-He just doesn't listen to people when they speak.and some other things have happened where I just do the hellmuth with my hands in the air. Link to post Share on other sites
wsox8 10 Posted July 25, 2008 Share Posted July 25, 2008 *Ex_Matt has requested time*Just a bunch of minor things that may not seem like a big deal but after awhile they've become quite annoying.-He always thinks his ideas are the best and always tries to persuade people into doing the things he wants to do.-If he doesn't get his way he'll try to make others feel bad about it.-If he's losing at something he'll always have an excuse as to why he lost.-He just doesn't listen to people when they speak.and some other things have happened where I just do the hellmuth with my hands in the air.ouch, that sounds like me Link to post Share on other sites
Lolli 0 Posted July 25, 2008 Share Posted July 25, 2008 *Ex_Matt has requested time*Just a bunch of minor things that may not seem like a big deal but after awhile they've become quite annoying.-He always thinks his ideas are the best and always tries to persuade people into doing the things he wants to do.-If he doesn't get his way he'll try to make others feel bad about it.-If he's losing at something he'll always have an excuse as to why he lost.-He just doesn't listen to people when they speak.and some other things have happened where I just do the hellmuth with my hands in the air.How old is he? Youve just described my 8 year old son. Link to post Share on other sites
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