MJINK3 0 Posted July 15, 2008 Share Posted July 15, 2008 We had the talk with both my daughters(15 & 11) about the dangers of the internet, not to give out any info, no creating my space pages, the whole nine yards. I do try and monitor what they are doing, one reason when we built this house that we had the computer desk put into the kitchen, but it just isn't always possible and of course you have to have some trust in your kids unless they show otherwise. So we find out from my youngest when she slipped up that my oldest has a my space page and has been chatting with some supposed 15 year old from San Antonio. Oh boy did it hit the fan. The whole thing from getting her email, myspace, wee world, account names and passwords, to asking a 1000 questions. Come to find out she has given him her cell number and our home phone number, which basically if he is a rapist, stalker, whatever, he has evrything he needs to find her. Of course she had his number which I immediatley called and talked to his Mom and Dad to make sure he was legit. I also have a friend(Police Detective) here in town I gave all the info for him that I know and is making sure he is legit. He said don't delete anything until he calls me back, as soon as he does he I am deleting all of her accounts. She now has no cell phone and no computer privelages until further notice. Bottom line is I need an intenet program for the computer and am asking about recomendations. I have been told that Netnanny and Cyber Patrol are the best. Any users out there? Link to post Share on other sites
RhinestoneCowboy 2 Posted July 15, 2008 Share Posted July 15, 2008 All you need. Link to post Share on other sites
LongLiveYorke 38 Posted July 15, 2008 Share Posted July 15, 2008 Wait, it's the 15 year old who had the myspace page and friended someone?If so, I really think you're overreacting here. You realize that in about 3 years she'll be in college, right? I mean, I understand your desire to protect your children, but children need to make mistakes on their own and learn from those mistakes. That doesn't mean that you should simply let your children get away with anything and you should remain well informed of their activities, but I don't think having a myspace page and an internet friend is the worst thing in the world. Link to post Share on other sites
MJINK3 0 Posted July 15, 2008 Author Share Posted July 15, 2008 Wait, it's the 15 year old who had the myspace page and friended someone?If so, I really think you're overreacting here. You realize that in about 3 years she'll be in college, right?They have been chattin on line for about 2 weeks and already think they are in love, want to move together when they get out of high school, etc...... I have no problem if she has a boyfriend here in town but to think that the other person she might be corresponding to might be a 48 year old sex offender is something totally different. My Detective buddy said that just because I talked to what I thought was two different people(his mom and dad) doen't mean he wasn't using a voice modulator. I will feel better when I get a call back from him.Edit- He also told me about a case where a 13 year old girl was calling someone she thought was across the country but he had the line set up just so he could have her call it in say California and then have it forwarded or rerouted to his cell phone in which he could've been outside the house for all she knew. Crazy stupid idiots out there these days. Link to post Share on other sites
Sal Paradise 57 Posted July 15, 2008 Share Posted July 15, 2008 hey yeah, rhinestone's right. give me all her info and I'll take care of eeeeverything. Link to post Share on other sites
Anastasia Beaverhausin 0 Posted July 15, 2008 Share Posted July 15, 2008 Talk about an overreaction most likely cause by those To Catch a Predator shows. I fully understand your concern over your daughters and their internet usage but to be so intense to actually have the notion that you talked to a person using a voice modulator is just plain sad. Change your number, get rid of her cell phone(kids don't need cell phones anyway, we never had them growing up so why do kids nowadays need them?) and keep her off the internet. But to sit here posting on a poker site about how some innocent 15 yr old boy wooed your daughter might actually be a 48 year old fat perv with voice modulators is just plain pathetic. If I was a betting girl and had money online I would easily bet thousands of $'s that the perv from Texas is just a 15 yr old. He would still be a perv since most 15 yr old boys are but clearly not a rapist as you said. Link to post Share on other sites
Suited_Up 2 Posted July 15, 2008 Share Posted July 15, 2008 Sigh.Teenagers are the reason I'm not sure about having kids.Though I agree, she's 15, and it's just not as young as it seems to a parent. But it's the lack of emotional control that scares me. Link to post Share on other sites
SBriand 4 Posted July 15, 2008 Share Posted July 15, 2008 Sigh.Teenagers are the reason I'm not sure about having kids.Though I agree, she's 15, and it's just not as young as it seems to a parent. But it's the lack of emotional control that scares me.When I was 15 I fell in love twice an hour with some chick. It's normal. Link to post Share on other sites
MJINK3 0 Posted July 15, 2008 Author Share Posted July 15, 2008 Talk about an overreaction most likely cause by those To Catch a Predator shows. I fully understand your concern over your daughters and their internet usage but to be so intense to actually have the notion that you talked to a person using a voice modulator is just plain sad. Change your number, get rid of her cell phone(kids don't need cell phones anyway, we never had them growing up so why do kids nowadays need them?) and keep her off the internet. But to sit here posting on a poker site about how some innocent 15 yr old boy wooed your daughter might actually be a 48 year old fat perv with voice modulators is just plain pathetic. If I was a betting girl and had money online I would easily bet thousands of $'s that the perv from Texas is just a 15 yr old. He would still be a perv since most 15 yr old boys are but clearly not a rapist as you said.If I am overreacting so be it. You know the scary thing is those that get caught on To Catch a Predator are the stupid ones. It is becoming more and more of a problem unfortunately. Link to post Share on other sites
SBriand 4 Posted July 15, 2008 Share Posted July 15, 2008 If I am overreacting so be it. You know the scary thing is those that get caught on To Catch a Predator are the stupid ones. It is becoming more and more of a problem unfortunately.I don't believe it is that large of a problem. It only seems that way because of that show and the publicity it gets. Good luck though, hope everything works out. Link to post Share on other sites
Suited_Up 2 Posted July 15, 2008 Share Posted July 15, 2008 When I was 15 I fell in love twice an hour with some chick. It's normal.Same here. Even ran up $1000 phone bill because of it. Link to post Share on other sites
LongLiveYorke 38 Posted July 15, 2008 Share Posted July 15, 2008 If I am overreacting so be it. You know the scary thing is those that get caught on To Catch a Predator are the stupid ones. It is becoming more and more of a problem unfortunately.We certainly do hear a lot of horror stories and indeed it's scary, but at a certain point you have to realize that the world is indeed full of scary things. You just have to trust that your daughters are intelligent enough and that you've raised them well enough to for the most part stay out of trouble. The fact that you're this concerned makes me tend to believe that you're already a good parent and your daughters are probably good kids and they'll be okay.It's going to be scary how quickly your 15 year old from now on will become independent and how you'll be unable to give her the constant attention and guidance that you may be used to at this point. But that's not a bad thing. I think your kid will be fine. If you want to watch her back in the way that you are, I think that's fine, but don't to it so much that she gets the sense that you don't trust her. Sometimes kids start to resent adults that don't think of them as intelligent and mature people (even though pretty much no one is at that age). All I'm saying is to be aware that there's a fine line between being protective and being overprotective. Sigh. Being a parent must be hard. I don't know how you guys do it.And sorry for derailing the thread. No, I'm not a parent so I don't know off hand of any good software. Link to post Share on other sites
El Guapo 8 Posted July 15, 2008 Share Posted July 15, 2008 Not looking forward to my 40's. I guess this will be harder to monitor then. Link to post Share on other sites
MJINK3 0 Posted July 15, 2008 Author Share Posted July 15, 2008 We certainly do hear a lot of horror stories and indeed it's scary, but at a certain point you have to realize that the world is indeed full of scary things. You just have to trust that your daughters are intelligent enough and that you've raised them well enough to for the most part stay out of trouble. The fact that you're this concerned makes me tend to believe that you're already a good parent and your daughters are probably good kids and they'll be okay.It's going to be scary how quickly your 15 year old from now on will become independent and how you'll be unable to give her the constant attention and guidance that you may be used to at this point. But that's not a bad thing. I think your kid will be fine. If you want to watch her back in the way that you are, I think that's fine, but don't to it so much that she gets the sense that you don't trust her. Sometimes kids start to resent adults that don't think of them as intelligent and mature people (even though pretty much no one is at that age). All I'm saying is to be aware that there's a fine line between being protective and being overprotective. Sigh. Being a parent must be hard. I don't know how you guys do it.And sorry for derailing the thread. No, I'm not a parent so I don't know off hand of any good software.Not a problem. When I posted this topic I knew I would get both sides. Maybe one of the scarier things is that I am now thinking about what I was doing when I was 15. Link to post Share on other sites
Sal Paradise 57 Posted July 15, 2008 Share Posted July 15, 2008 you should feel lucky that she at least wants to date guys her age. could be worse. Link to post Share on other sites
The Feelings Jar 0 Posted July 15, 2008 Share Posted July 15, 2008 Not a problem. When I posted this topic I knew I would get both sides. Maybe one of the scarier things is that I am now thinking about what I was doing when I was 15. You seem like a nice guy MJINK3, but your over-reacting a little. I know you're probably older and didn't have the internet when you were young but it's here to stay and it's only going to grow. You sound like a very concerned and active parent, which is a good thing, so I'm sure your child is responsible and aware of the dangers. The thing is, I have a myspace, or at least I used to until it got filled with spam and it was no danger to me. That's the beauty of the internet MJINK3, we can talk to people from across the planet and see what their prospective on life is.I think you should give her back her privileges but keep the computer in the kitchen and keep monitoring her behavior like a solid, trustworthy loving parent should.Ps. Image what she'd think if she knew you were talking with a jar that survives on peoples feelings? Link to post Share on other sites
Dawson Leery 12 Posted July 15, 2008 Share Posted July 15, 2008 Whoever posts "TTIWWP" first is going to hell Link to post Share on other sites
Figger 0 Posted July 15, 2008 Share Posted July 15, 2008 Bottom line is I need an intenet program for the computer and am asking about recomendations. I have been told that Netnanny and Cyber Patrol are the best. Any users out there?Half the people who responded are probably those same people you fear. Could someone answer the man's question.This isn't Dr. Phil.edit:PC Mag review of Netnannyhttp://www.pcmag.com/article2/0,1759,1650540,00.aspPC Mag review of Cyberpatrolhttp://www.pcmag.com/article2/0,2817,1840517,00.asp Link to post Share on other sites
Dawson Leery 12 Posted July 15, 2008 Share Posted July 15, 2008 Half the people who responded are probably those same people you fear.Sal/Chrinestone FTW Link to post Share on other sites
Sal Paradise 57 Posted July 15, 2008 Share Posted July 15, 2008 Sal/Chrinestone FTWI have no idea what you are talking about.also,TTIWWP. Link to post Share on other sites
loogie 115 Posted July 15, 2008 Share Posted July 15, 2008 Overreacting??? You guys are so naive. Well...I think it's safe for work. Link to post Share on other sites
Dawson Leery 12 Posted July 15, 2008 Share Posted July 15, 2008 Overreacting??? You guys are so naive. Well...I think it's safe for work.I don't know how you had that at your fingertips, but it was perfect Link to post Share on other sites
Suited_Up 2 Posted July 15, 2008 Share Posted July 15, 2008 Overreacting??? You guys are so naive. Well...I think it's safe for work.Wow, that's pretty good.But Jinky... keep in mind, bad things could happen when you mess with peoples myspace: Link to post Share on other sites
Dirtydutch 8 Posted July 15, 2008 Share Posted July 15, 2008 If it turned out to be me just screwing with her head because it's how I work out my frustrations with my own adolescent romantic baggage, how pissed/vengeful would you be? Link to post Share on other sites
Ouch-8s 4 Posted July 15, 2008 Share Posted July 15, 2008 It would be better if it were Lindsey screwing with her, and she turned lesbian as a result.Who asked for pics earlier? Wanna split a cab? Link to post Share on other sites
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