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snamuh is totally right. it doesnt mater if you lose 100k, lose 1k or even make 1k. if you cant stop yourself from playing or playing above your roll, its compulsive gambling. coming clean, wtihdrawing/quitting for a while is the right thing to do

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Ill pay you $50 if you video tape the confession and put it on you tube
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If you are losing this much than the first thing you should do is stop chatting during tournaments.
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You lost a thousand some dollars playing poker. Meanwhile, your wife spent a thousand dollars on shoes and scented candles. Telling her is the right thing. Don't be a pansy.
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Yeah, this is the worst thing I have done in our marriage. And to be clear, she called and said we are missing $2000 in the account, can you call your dad and look into it, and I just said that I would because I was at work and didn't have time to come clean right then. That was three hours ago and I am still at work and I plan on coming clean tonight. So its not like I have lied about it a billion times over... I secretly took out the money hoping to to build a bankroll... after going busto, I thought I could get back... obv I haven't done that. As far as posting it, I just need to hear people tell me to come clean. I was planning on doing it, it was just nice to hear it from others.
why the f do they always call at work .... ? Dude. She knows already. SHE KNOWS. That's why she called you and not your dad. But why the F do they always call at work? Save it for the bedroom so you can look into each others eyes and make up like you're supposed to. And tell her the people on this forum say it's not a capital offense.
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It's only 2 Grand. If this is a deal breaker they got bigger problems. I remember when I paid cash for a nice souped up Bronco and had it for 2 weeks, blew the engine out in the desert and it sat there for a year. My wife got over it,but it's not a deal breaker. Be a man, tell her the truth and pay the money back over time, or don't pay it back, whatever- WTF kind of world is this when our men can't make mistakes like men should?
What happened with the Bronco after the year was up?
whats the big deal if you lose $2000 playing poker in two years...Do you think people that have other hobbies dont spend more?Ask a recreational golfer how much money he spends on golf over the year?You could have a lot worse habits, that cost a lot more money..I say buy her a nice expensive handbag and some nice shoes with the remaining of the money, and deposit another $500
QFT, but.....
Dude it's not the monetary amount. It's the shadiness of having to hide a secret account from your wife. It's also the theory that "if I keep playing, I can win it back."
Exactly...who does this? If i have an extra $500 that I feel like doing whatever I want with, I do it. Do people really hide stuff like this from their significant others? Maybe this will be a problem for me when I get married, I don't know, but I can't see myself changing this part of my lifestyle. And it is just plain silly to try to "get away with it". You wife won't let you play poker, for Christs sake?
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Then stop taking shots?Seriously, I wouldn't "take a shot" at any limit that would require me to buy in with >10% of my roll.
You are correct sir. I know that. Yet this is where the problem lies.
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I agree, but we'll see if she does...Also, I have been slammed for losing $1350 in two years and people here say that I need gambling addiction help... but honestly, haven't people on here lost ALOT more in ALOT less time? Just curious.
It's not losing the money that is the "gambling problem" it is the actions that seem to surround it.You admit that you deceived your wife. You secretly deposited $2000 that was not to be used for poker in hopes of scoring big. That's a problem dude. You keep losing and then depositing more hoping to win it all back. That is a problem. It's a problem because it's happened 4 times and you keep redepositing admittedly to try and win it back to cover your tracks. You admit you grind it out and then decide to go for the big score each time and lose it all. That is a problem. Sure pro's lose more than what you lost but it's their job. They play within their means, they have money on the side to protect them if they bust, etc. You are just trying to hit that one large score, miss and then tell yourself to deposit more and try again, thus losing more and thus putting you in this spot.You clearly state that you fear not being able to play again. That means you are addicted to the game. That along with the above is a sign of a problem. Not dogging on you at all, just showing you what I see based on your posts.And I don't think the $2000 is the deal breaker as someone pointed out. If my wife was secretly taking money out one of our accounts without telling me and blowing it on the horses (since she loves the horses) and not telling me, that would be an issue regardless of the amount of money.
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Dude it's not the monetary amount. It's the shadiness of having to hide a secret account from your wife. It's also the theory that "if I keep playing, I can win it back."
This is the main point here. It's not a money thing, it's hiding it from your wife. If your wife is anything like mine, that's a cardinal sin. Man up and tell her your are spending $30 bucks a week and I'm sure she'll be fine with it, just don't spend behind her back. I've done this before and it never ends up good, whether it's $500 or $2000.Do what I do. Get a payroll deduction type savings account and spend that, but be up front about it. This is what I do to finance my other hobbies. This way it doesn't come directly out of the family savings, and you barely notice it on a week to week basis.
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Sit her down and explain to her that your a sex addict and you spent $1350 on $20 hookers. Then say just kidding I lost it playing poker. it wont seem as bad by comparison.

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Sit her down and explain to her that your a sex addict and you spent $1350 on $20 hookers. Then say just kidding I lost it playing poker. it wont seem as bad by comparison.
Now thats a good idea
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withdraw your 650, youre only down 1350 overall. add/remove programstell her you have a gambling problem and youve taken steps to ensure you dont lose any more money. shell be pissed,but happy youre confronting your problems. you might even get a congrats bj
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1dn't really read the other replies but you've only lost about $1350 in 2 years. That's really nothing at all, many of us on here have lost that or more in one night either playing poker, gambling otherwise, losing money in stocks etc. Just tell her the truth. You can make the money back easily.

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Seems everyone on FCP is the perfect husband/boyfriend and NEVER keeps any secrets from their other half, lol. I don't know how you all do it, you're all so perfect.OP, I think you've had tough feedback here. It's $1350... over 2 years. I personally do not see that as a compulsive gambling problem, like some have said. Just tell her though, and if your relationship is normal, all will be totally fine within 48 hours.

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Don't sweat the losses man, they're not that much. Just keep playing and tell your wife you play poker w/ that money but didn't have time to explain while at work. When she asks why you didn't tell her, you can play it like you didn't think it'd be a big deal. Don't quit poker, keep reloading, and have fun.

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I can't believe has suggested this. Try selling fossils to supplement your poker bankroll. Not only will that keep you in poker funds, it will ultimately lead to a WSOP bracelet and a deal with pokerstars.

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I'm way late to the party, but $2000 is a small "amount".You can drop that in 2 nights in the casino pits on blackjack and crap like "let it ride" alone.You need to focus on the 2-year window. You've lost a lot of money relative to both:a. ) Your bankroll (x4)b. ) Your limits.From the poker side, you *have* to drop down and re-establish your game at smaller levels. There is no magic switch that flips where you suddenly start pwning souls. That "switch" only happens through reading books, going over hands in strat forums, watching the legit poker shows on TVs, living and breathing the sport, and, finally, a grotesque amount of experience playing at the proper limits. The square peg is never going to fit in the triangular slot, you need to hone your game into a traingular forum through experience, confidence, and solid, refined play.From the wife side: Hiding it is silly. Don't prance around behind her back. If its money you are comfortable losing, it's not a problem (thats been said ad infinum in this thread). It's up there with (if not) the cheapest forms of recreation out there. Nothing to be ashamed about.But seriously, we all experience downswings, not down years. You can turn it around, just be honest at where you are at playing poker and adjust your stakes/play accordingly.

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Tell her you spent a night with this .... let a day go by, then tell her it was an april fool's joke and that you just lost it playing poker.
This is an excellent plan B.
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dude, everybody is being too nice to you. you have a gambling problem. its that simple. cash out, tell your wife, come clean, and get help.
Many people have said it but I'm quoting anti, just cause. You don't have a gambling problem. If you don't come clean to your wife, you have a marital problem. Just do what's right, don't let poker become a point of contention and get better. There is no reason to lose money at this game.
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